Explore the Tantric Dating Game

Confused. Frightened. Nervous. If you're a single ThirdAger, re-entering the dating sphere can be all of these things. You wonder how to present yourself in a way that'll attract the kind of person you want to be with. Questions like "Will I look good?" and "Can I compete?" may worry your mind in the beginning. And even though everyone is thinking the same thing, you still feel alone.

Eating right, exercising and feeling fulfilled in other aspects of your life will help you relax when it comes to dating. In addition, a simple practice like meditation or yoga can restore balance, as well, and sharing your feelings openly with friends can also lend some peace of mind.

When it comes to the actual date, there are some things you should do to get to know each other before taking it to the next leve. Try some of these ideas after your first few social dates to develop a closer relationship.

• Sit facing each other, hold hands and look into each others' eyes for five minutes. This may be difficult. Let the giggles pass and keep doing it. Breathe together and keep your eyes soft. There's nothing to do -- just look. Don't smile or make faces -- just softly gaze. If you wish to take it another step, place your right hand in the center of your partner's chest, and your own left hand over your partner's hand to hold it there. Have your partner adopt the same position, then gaze for another five minutes.
• Go dancing -- even if one of you doesn't want to. Dancing frees your spirit and lets your light shine through. You don't have to be great at it. Just let loose and you'll have fun!
• Orchestrate an evening of erotic touch -- one that keeps the clothes on. Gather a makeup brush, a feather, a piece of soft fur, a rose bud, a soft shawl, the silky edge of a blanket or any other thing that has a sensual, soft texture. If your partner's willing, use a blindfold to treat him to a sensual experience. You can even stimulate the sense of smell with pure oils such as aroma-therapy essences. Get creative to show that side of your nature. And make sure you both get a turn.
• Play a truth-telling game together. There are a few good ones on the market that consist of questions on cards that can be answered with a decline, a lie or the truth. Most people always opt for the truth because we like to disclose things about ourselves. It's a great way to have fun and see the deeper side of a prospective mate.

Staying conscious and in your authentic self will help you draw in the partner you've always wanted. Be real and begin again with a kind of innocence that allows you to play at the dating game, and you'll shine through to those you meet.