Having Sex Outside of the Bedroom

Every lover and every relationship will come to the place of wanting more -- more intimacy, sexual activity and creativity. In a maturing relationship, we tend to stop exploring and being inventive. We reach the limits of our personal knowledge and experience and begin to desire something new and different, yet without knowing how to create it. Unreasonable fantasies, avoidance of sexual activity, lack of intimacy or even separation can be the consequences of a simple case of bedroom boredom.

One solution? Tantra. Tantra has a lot to offer long-term couples who want more out of their relationship. When we can break out of the old patterns we've gotten into and learn new ways of being -- physically, spiritually and emotionally -- we expand and open. This builds more trust in ourselves, in our partners and in our relationships. We grow and expand who we thought we were.

One of the easiest and most fun ways to get creative with your lovemaking is to step out of the bounds of the bedroom when making love. Atmosphere and setting play a role in the attitude and sentiment you bring to the experience. A slight bit of risk -- like making love in your backyard or on the kitchen table during breakfast -- can add excitement to your life. You may suddenly find yourself in the mood more often.

Once you get started exploring new lovemaking locations, you'll get even more creative. What have you got to lose? Here are a few suggestions:

• Make love in the bathroom. Draw the bath with essential oils and bubbles, then add some candles and music. Either before or after you bathe, spread a soft, warm towel on the counter or put a big pillow in the dry sink. You can even cook up tasty oral treats to spread on your lover's thighs or penis. Cleanup is extra easy -- just climb into the tub!
• Make love in the hot tub. Under the stars, what more could you ask for? Water doesn't make the best lubricant, however, so have a little lube handy for more sensual slipperiness. Use the side of the hot tub with an upper seat for oral sex, or lean your partner over the edge for rear-entry positions. Since water makes us weightless, you can get into some very unique positions!
• The living room offers some great nooks and curves for sex. The arm of an over-stuffed couch creates a good backrest or padded surface for leaning over. The arms of a chair provide the perfect place to rest your legs for oral sex or intercourse. A hassock is wonderful for the classic Yab-Yum position in Tantra. With both partners in an upright position, the man's penis will be more upright, too -- especially good for G-spot stimulation!
• Give your partner oral sex while they're working. Imagine sitting at your desk working on that article or database for work, when all of a sudden you're asked if he can lift your skirt while you work. Erotic? I'd say so! This could lead to a longer "break" than you might expect!
• Try the classics. Have you ever made love in front of the fire with a plush rug and champagne? If you haven't, you're overdue.
• Get out into nature. The Kama Sutra suggests that couples watch animals mate. You can go on an outing to the zoo first, and then go back home to try out your new ideas! Mimic the way lions, tigers and bears make love. By watching animals you'll get more into your own animal nature. You can even try a little roaring and growling! Making deeper sounds than usual can lead to a more explosive orgasmic experience.
• Try a love swing. If you've got a little backyard privacy, hang the swing under a large tree or patio roof. A warm summer night would be just the time. An easy winter solution? Move the swing indoors. Love swings are wonderful for helping train men in better ejaculation mastery, and they add real fun and exploration to your steamy sex repertoire.

The Kama Sutra praises creativity within a partnership. No doubt, you'll appreciate your house so much more after you've discovered each of its rooms' hidden possibilities. Each place will have titillating and lasting memories that'll be your shared little secret!

For more information about Suzie Heumann and her work, visit www.tantra.com. To really get the most out of your loving, consider some advanced training. The Tantric Sex Guide is your 24 hour a day guide to the skills that will take you to new heights of pleasure and intimacy.