When a Wife Has Lost Interest in Sex

If you're wife has lost interest in sex, We suggest that, to begin, you ask her if anything is bothering her. Your job is to listen -- to really listen. Take in what she's telling you without judgment or defensiveness. If her complaint has merit, you need to take action to remedy what's wrong. Often, issues having nothing to do with sex turn out to be the impediment. It's possible that she's having some problems of her own that have little to do with you. She could be depressed or she could be going through some physical issues. The point is that you'll never know unless the two of you talk.

If your wife is perimenopausal or menopausal, she may be suffering from vaginal dryness, which can result in painful intercourse. If this is the case, it's obvious why she has stopped wanting sex on a regular basis. Her gynecologist can help her solve this; there are very low dosage estrogen vaginal suppositories that work wonders. Some women also lose libido as they age, due to hormonal changes, depression and other reasons. Again, you should encourage her to talk to her doctor.

And then (forgive us for stating the obvious) it may work to just try something a little different. Surprise her with a weekend out of town in a romantic bed-and-breakfast, or fly her to Paris if your budget allows. In a good marriage, love and lust turn into contentment, which is great, but often devoid of passion unless you do something to rekindle the flame. The good news is -- if monotony is the problem -- that almost anything different will work.