Remember the mantra from the 60’s: “Be here now”? Well, psychologists agree following that advice will boost our happiness and peace of mind. In other words, you should enjoy the moment you’re living in rather than fearing the future or obsessing about the past. Sound tough? Here are a few tips to help you out:
STAY ALOOF: Think of yourself as viewing everyday events or conflicts from a treehouse; you have a perspective about what’s going on and aren’t caught up in the emotions. That way, you can hear the passing drama of feelings, social pressures, even of being esteemed or disparaged by others, without taking their evaluations personally.
SAVOR: Relish the moment. Whether you’re taking a shower, walking in the park, playing with your grandchildren, or listening to music, when you’re in the present and enjoying the moment, there’s no room for comparison, negative thoughts or unhappiness.
BREATHE BEFORE REACTING: Taking five deep breaths before you respond to a stressful or anger-inducing situation will slow you down and make you more aware of your mental state. That pause allows you to respond thoughtfully rather than automatically.
MEDITATE: Sit comfortably and in silence for just 5 minutes and let your thoughts go as you focus solely on your breath going in and out. When you realize that your mind is chasing your thoughts, bring it back to your breath. Just be still.
Robin Westen is ThirdAge’s medical reporter. Check for her daily updates. Her newest book, co-authored with Dr. Alyssa Dweck, is “V Is For Vagina.”
