Women over 50 are changing themselves along with the world. Retirement is not even on their radar, and they are not going to stay home, read and watch the world go by as their mothers did at this age. That will come much later. Now, they are taking on life with a new spirit and tenacity that is making them more visible, giving them new confidence and bringing excitement into what was once a dull life-stage for women their age.
But how do they do it? How do women over 50 reclaim their “identity” after the empty nest? What does it take for a midlife woman to take a big leap of faith to leave a career she has had for years in order to do something she really loves to do?
As I experienced my own do-over, a woman’s reinvention brought on by her own “midlife crisis” can be summed up in three phases:
I’m done. A woman in her 50′s realizes that she has been focusing on others for so long, saying yes to everything out of obligation, while carrying unfulfilled dreams deep in her soul. She must say “I’m done!” then give herself permission to focus on herself for a change. Forgiveness and overcoming guilt are also important parts of this step.
Now what? Once she is truly “done” with looking at the past, it is time for her to reconnect with her passions, to discover her new life purpose, and to set some goals for herself that will make her stretch.
Kick butt! With her newfound “Joie de vivre” the woman over 50 is taking on the world with a fierce determination that she will look and feel her very best, and that the best years are yet to come. She has a renewed energy as she “kicks butt” wearing stilettos instead of house slippers, choosing networking luncheons over afternoon bridge club. She is creating a life for herself doing the things she loves to do, allowing herself to be creative about her future
If you are over 50 and longing to live with more passion and purpose, here are a few steps to get you started on your own reinvention.
Make a list of the things you are passionate about, the things that “light your fire.”
Make a list of your gifts and skills. Ask others to help you if you get stuck.
Make another list of the things you DON’T want to do any more.
Picture yourself at 90 years old, telling your great-grandchildren about your life. What are you most proud of in the last 40 years? What do you want to be remembered for?
Write a life purpose statement for yourself, including what you want to do (see the first two points above) and who you want to impact
Make a list of goals that will stretch you and make you grow
Surround yourself with cheerleaders who will support you along the way
Celebrate your newfound enthusiasm and go for it!
If you need a little extra encouragement or help with strategizing, please contact me at Susan@FlourishOver50.com.
Susan Tolles is the founder of www.FlourishOver50.com.
