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Set Up Your Support System Early
Posted 7/7/08 12:08 PM
Set Up Your Support System Early
My wife and I care for her 87-year-old mother in our home. If you are considering taking a step like this, be sure to work with as many professionals as possible. You'll need to learn about giving meds, handling finances, watching for problems, dealing with behavior issues, moving the patient, bathing, and a whole host of other possible issues. The broader your support network, including friends and family, the more doable this all is. And while you at it, be sure to keep a close watch on the effect your role has on yourself, your spouse, and your kids.
Providing care for your aging parents, whether in your home or elsewhere, requires a committment that not everyone can make. Don't think you are a bad person if you can't make that committment-- and don't let anyone talk you into thinking that you should do more than you are ready to take on.
Posted 02/09/09 1:57 PM
Rays of Joy Adult Care Center
We have a facility in Durham, nc that helps caregivers who also needs to work. We would care for your elderly during the day while they are working. See our website at www.raysofjoyadultcarecenter.com.
Posted 02/08/09 12:34 PM
Caring for 96 year old Mom
I have been caring for my 96 year old Mom for 16 months. She has been in the hospital 5 different times. I have converted my master bedroom to accomodate all her physical needs. I have NO help from my 3 other siblings. It has been a learning experience and has been terribly draining on me physically and emotionally. We have her signed up for a "new" assisted living facility that is affordable and will be open April. I had no idea what I was taking on when I agreed for Mom to live with me. Financially , I am about wiped out. I recently took out a line of credit on my home so that I could hire extra help in the afternoons and night. I am looking forward to having her settled in this new facility. Perhaps then I can regain some of my life back and not feel guilty.
Posted 02/09/09 2:04 PM
I reallly understand your
I reallly understand your issues and concerns. We have a website: www.raysofjoyadultcarecenter.com. We help caregivers who need assistance for their elderly while they are working during the week or whom just need some rest of the fulltime repsonsibility of taking care of their elderly.
Posted 02/09/09 2:04 PM
I reallly understand your
I reallly understand your issues and concerns. We have a website: www.raysofjoyadultcarecenter.com. We help caregivers who need assistance for their elderly while they are working during the week or whom just need some rest of the fulltime repsonsibility of taking care of their elderly.
Posted 02/09/09 6:30 PM
We at The rays of joy adult
We at The rays of joy adult care center are well aware of the many issues that caregivers have to go through with alzheimer's. We are nurses that have over 20 years experience with the elderly and alzheimer's. I myself was the caharge nurse of an locked Alzheimers unit and loved it. That is why WE are starting a dayhealthcare center for the elderly and their caregivers in the Durham, NC area. see our website: www.raysofjoyadultcarecenter.com
Posted 02/09/09 6:30 PM
We at The rays of joy adult
We at The rays of joy adult care center are well aware of the many issues that caregivers have to go through with alzheimer's. We are nurses that have over 20 years experience with the elderly and alzheimer's. I myself was the caharge nurse of an locked Alzheimers unit and loved it. That is why WE are starting a dayhealthcare center for the elderly and their caregivers in the Durham, NC area. see our website: www.raysofjoyadultcarecenter.com
Posted 08/20/08 10:16 AM
plan for your future
If your parent(s) are still insurable, you might want to see if you can get long term care insurance for them (some companies will issue policies up to age 84) If you don't want your children to be put in the same position as you, look into insurance for yourself while you can.... check us out at www.ssltc.com....
Posted 08/13/08 6:51 PM
Shared Custody
Amen. If you have a toxic parent, you will not win any points doing them any favors by taking care of them. The older they get the meaner they can become and ruin what could other wise be your golden years. My father would pull the "honor one's parents" guilt trip if I refused. One might want to consider a long term care policy that could provide for your parent in the event you are unable to commit. Or shared custody of the parent, where they are taken care of equally by each child same amount of time in whether they are in different cities or not. But then, if you have a sweet parent who is docile and tranquil, in home nursing care can come by and help you with the bathing etc..especially if your parent is the other sex.
My Aunt took care of my Grandparents in their old age and when it was all said and done the love was gone. It was sad to hear the hardships they went through. It was very tough for them.
Posted 08/08/08 9:43 PM
apparently this Paulk
is another employee kid of TA that has made a group or discussion as have been done all around this now defunct site LOL
Posted 08/07/08 10:49 PM
HMMMMM
Setting up support systems work if only you have others to help LOL I have a 82 year old mother living with me that makes my life BLACK ...why??? because I'm the sole caregiver of her. Why??? because my brother, whom never did a thing for anyone other then the woman of his moment doesn't help LOL
Posted 02/08/09 1:01 PM
I have no support system
I have no support system either...from any of my 3 siblings. They only call and get my 96 yr old Mom more confused. And they criticize me. The 2 younger ones took all my Mom's savings so now I am having to foot the bill for all her expenses. Sometimes .........life sucks !!!
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