Elder Abuse, What We All Need to Know

Caring for the needs of our elderly relatives or other elders we are responsible for is something most of us do with compassion and patience. We do this month after month and year after year, and its hard for us to imagine anyone caregiving in any other way. Unfortunately, there is a small minority of caregivers out there, both paid and family, who do not hold this philosophy.

Because of them, elder abuse has become a significant issue. Recently an elder care expert on the Canadian Broadcasting Corporation's (CBC) radio morning show said that elder abuse is at a similar place as domestic violence was a number of years ago. People are just beginning to realized that theres a problem out there -- one that wont go away.

As we reach old age, we are not as able to defend ourselves against attack, because we are often frailer in our body and our mind. Uncaring or unscrupulous people use this perceived weakness to take advantage of elders, instead of protecting and caring for them, and honoring the incredible life history each one of them carries within them.

Abuse can take many forms including physical, emotional, sexual, neglect/abandonment, financial or healthcare fraud. We are all our sisters and brothers keepers. If we know an elderly person who we think is in trouble, its up to us as good neighbors and community members to speak to someone, perhaps a family member, doctor, or public health nurse. The two main indicators of possible abuse are:

Frequent arguments or tension between the caregiver and the elderly personChanges in personality or behavior in the elderHelp Guide has published an excellent article by Ellen Jaffe-Gill, Tina de Benedictis and Jeanne Segal, outlining what elder abuse is and detailing everything to look for; its called On Elder Abuse and NeglectHeres another one on financial abuse, a guest blog by Dale Carter on AgeWiseLiving, called How Can I Protect My Aging Parent Against Financial AbuseRyan Malone has written an informative article on How to Background Check Your Home Care Provider in his blog Inside Elder Care.About the Author:Ellen Besso is a MidLife Coach and Author who helps women develop lives that are simpler and less stressful, and to re-discover their passion. Ellens writing on topics like caregiving, self-care and her volunteer work and travels strikes a chord in many midlife women. Her recent book, Surviving Eldercare: Where Their Needs End & Yours Begin is a help guide for women.
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