5 Online-Dating Red Flags
He indicates “no preference” in too many categories of what he’s looking for in a mate. It’s legit if a guy says he doesn’t care what religion a woman is, or if she’s blond or brunette, but a guy who is open to anyone and anything -- big, tall, cats or dogs, it’s okay or not if she has children, has no height or weight requirement -- that guy isn’t just unfussy. He’s desperate.
He will date only a woman with a substantial income. While there’s nothing wrong with a man stating he wants a woman who has an income of her own, someone overly hung up on her salary or financial status is sending a message he’s unwilling to pull his own weight. He could even be a gigolo or a male golddigger! And yes, they exist. Just look at Slade on the “Real Housewives of Orange County,” thrilled for Gretchen to pay the bills and be the breadwinner.
He describes his hobbies as things that sound crazy, or even reckless. A person’s special interests say a lot. While most middle aged people describe doing things like camping, going to the movies, exploring new areas, hiking, bicycling, or attending concerts, there is a certain type of individual who feels the need to list interests and activities that seem, well, foolhardy. Do you really want to sky dive, rodeo ride, or zip line? Is this guy for real or showing off?
The bottom line: Be sure to read between the lines when studying anyone’s profile page. Sometimes information people leave out is more significant than what they put in.
Eve Marx writes about sex and relationships for ThirdAge.