Blind dates are awkward. And if your date turns out to be a poor match, the date can become even more difficult.
However, despite their awkwardness, these kinds of dates are opportunities to meet wonderful people and, maybe, just maybe, meet the right man for you. Given that, don't banish blind dating. Just follow the tips below for a smooth -- and possibly enjoyable -- evening.
1. Be open to possibilities. Don't expect this meeting to bring about an instant relationship, and don't expect this guy to be your soul mate. Simply meet him and be open to the possibility of any connection, whether it be a relationship, friendship, business associate, or maybe a person who leads you to your right relationship.
2. Breathe. Take a deep breath every time you feel anxiety or discomfort coming on. Breathing will bring you back to yourself and your body, making you feel more relaxed and comfortable.
3. Be genuinely interested. Be genuinely interested in your date and what he's got to say and listen for where this connection might lead -- to a possible relationship, friendship, shopping buddy . . .
4. Be well-groomed. This is a given! Make yourself and the other person comfortable -- and worry less about whether you will be liked -- by simply taking a few minutes to spruce yourself up and look great.
5. Dress well. Dress casually but nicely and don't wear anything outlandish, overly flashy, or seductive. Use your style to highlight your personality.6. Make sure you have a good time. Be responsible for having a good time, even if the other person isn't very entertaining or amusing. Talk about subjects that you're interested in and suggest activities you enjoy. Make time spent on this date a good experience.7. Don't drink too much. It's tempting to try to make an uncomfortable situation more comfortable by numbing yourself a little with alcohol or another substance. Refrain if you can. If you're under the influence, the other person may not be able to connect with you or it may put you in a situation you normally wouldn't find yourself in.8. Don't talk about your past relationships. If the two of you wind up in a relationship, there'll be time enough to share your past. Past relationships make for a very bad first-date conversation and usually end up turning off your date.9. Get a word in. If your date is talking your head off and dominating the conversation, ask if he'd like to know something about you. Then see what happens.10. Plan where to meet. It goes without saying that for safety reasons you should always meet a blind date in a public place. You should also meet your date in a place you enjoy, such as your favorite restaurant or coffee shop.
11. Don't plan a long date. To maximize comfort and the possibility of having a good time, set a short first date. A few hours should be enough for both of you to get over the initial discomfort and to see if you have anything in common.12. Be yourself. Above all, be yourself. Don't try to guess what the other person wants and somehow pretend to be that. Simply be you -- relaxed, genuine, and having a good time.Master Certified Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries coaches singles to attract and build loving, fulfilling, long-term relationships.
Source: Relationships & Love
