Dating Techniques for Singles Over 50

Have a "Name Card" Ready Keeping the conversation going shows your interest. We are drawn to people who show that they like us. Taking the initiative in this way is especially useful for men who are "out of practice." Be prepared with a "name card," a tasteful business-type card with only your name and telephone number or e-mail address printed on it. After a few minutes of conversation, get your card into his or her hand. For example, you might say, "If you want that list I mentioned (local gardeners, thrift shops, galleries, etc.), give me call." Or try wrapping up the conversation with, "Perhaps we should continue our conversation on another day. Here's my card." If you run into the same gentleman or lady a number of times and have a series of friendly conversations, be bold. Ask him or her to be your guest (the term "guest" prevents uncomfortable moments when the check arrives) at an event. The one who initiates an encounter throws a "life preserver" to a shy or "out of practice" single. Now go for it! Dr. Zukerman has conducted hundreds of workshops for singles, teaching them how to navigate the difficulties of romance and dating in the second half of life. She is the author of Young at Heart: The Mature Woman's Guide to Finding and Keeping Romance (NTC, 2001). You can contact Dr. Zukerman on her Young at Heart Web site. - - - - - Where can you meet someone new? Better question, where can't you? Here's a roundup of intriguing ideas.