Discussion
Doing Long Distance online
Posted 8/23/08 8:10 PM
Doing Long Distance online
Hi guys:
I can see I have broken some rules and need some advise. I have been in an online long distance relationship for about 2 months. He emails me everyday..mainly he talks about the weather, sports and etc. generic stuff. I have emailed him back a few hours later. He lives in England and I live in Wisconsin. He is 6 hours ahead of me. So, I'll get a message at like 2:30 in morning my time from him..them I answer at about 5:30 in a.m. my time..sometimes he will wait for me and catch me online in the morning and we chat a small bit. Then I am off to work. if I start to wait 24 hours what do I tell him why the change if he asks? After a month he asked for my phone number. Which I gave to him. He phones me about twice a week and pretty much wants phone sex..I know this thing is out of control..How do I repair that? He has not said anything about coming to see me. But he still writes me everyday. I haven't told him much about my life as he does not ask. He seems content to chat about sports and banter back and forth. He has told me he misses me and wonders if I like his emails. I also have a babysitting job I'll be doing in a couple of weeks and I don't want to tell him that's what I am doing..what do I tell him? If I haven't recked it already and he is still around. Please help, I want to get this on the right track if he is really interested and I'm not sure what to say if he asks. Thanks
Posted 06/10/09 9:06 PM
What do you want out of this
What do you want out of this 2 month online "relationship"? Unless you're only looking for phone sex twice a week, I think this "relationship" is going no where, and doing nothing for you.
AS for what to say why you werent online at your "usual" times....you were busy! As for his phone calls....if you have caller ID or voicemail...you can let them go to voice mail....you were "out".......*maybe* you met someone locally....then he has a bit of competition....
Honestly.....I you say you'd like to get the on the right track "if he is really interested"......and, honestly.....I"m not seeing any indication that he is.
That sounds brutally harsh, and I DEFINITELY dont mean it that way except for YOUR BEST INTEREST......you COMPLETELY deserve someone who CARES about you.....the fact that he doesnt even ask much about you or your life, or talk of visiting....that speaks volumes.
He's fine with the status quo. I think you deserve HUGELY more......
{{{{{{{{{{hugs!!}}}}}}}}}}}}
Posted 06/06/09 9:01 PM
online relationship
i have been corresponding with a man for about 9 months now. he says he loves me and wants me to be his wife, problem is i am much older than him. he says age makes no difference, he loves me.
Posted 03/26/09 11:11 AM
Termination a relationship
You might start by being upfront with him about your feelings. From your correspondence u are not really interested other than the idea of someone out there might like u. Alternatively if u can't be honest with him you could check his email as spam and block his phone calls. If u require someone to be online with email me at prograsting@yahoo.com . best of luck Bob
Posted 08/30/08 11:11 AM
Online Relationship.
Honey!
I had an online relationship. We got to know eachother over 2yrs. We experienced not only the bright chit chat but the moody times etc. All of it that we'd experience in the real world. Luckily our Relationship blossomed and we Married.However I believe this Guy is just out to get his fix. He's too eager too clingy. If you can change your phone number, and your Online addy ID etc. Start fresh. It's not going anywhere.E-mails are devoid of emotion. Unless you can see him on web cam , you have no idea of what he's really thinking etc. You have no idea of his age. if single or in a Relationship etc. You can back track if you don't want to change addy ph. no. Just tell him you've met some one who lives nearby. You only want to have an online friendship. If he wants that too fine if he wants a quick fix, he'll get out pronto! problem solved.
Good Luck!
Posted 08/25/08 3:37 PM
Hisbwnidgrl
Hi - How much of this relationship do you think is reality and how much fantasy? I am not meaning to be harsh, I am just asking you to look honestly at the whole thing.
This is the trouble with having lengthy online chats - you never can tell! Personally I think you should get busier - wait at least 24 hours to answer his email and certainly not at 5am in the morning. What time would you normally have been online if you were not expecting an email from him ... 7am, 8am??
Try not to be too available and do try to get out there and meet other people too. I have had a guy fly from CO to UK to meet me but it really is pretty rare and was, in my case, totally unsustainable. After 2 months he should be chomping at the bit to meet you!
I am so sorry that I cannot be more positive for you - get TR online and read it over and over again until it is second nature to you - he will either step up or fade away.
Special, who posts here sometimes had a standard letter she would send (not bootcamp TR but it saves time) where basically she would say that 'it was nice getting to know you but unfortunately I am not looking for penpals just at the moment but would like to take this opportunity to wish you good luck with your search'
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