I'm No Demi Moore

Wow, it's true though. I recently turned 50 and even though I don't have my old figure, people still think I'm more than 10 years younger. I thought that was maybe why I was approached by such younger men, but in truth, they still thought I was at least 10 years older than them and weren't discouraged when I wasn't! They have been funner and more full of life than men of my closer age, who surprising are looking for hit & run sex! BUT I am the one who has the big problem accepting the age difference. Men have done it forever, but it still rings uncomfortable to me at times. It's probably social programming, but it's hard to get past.

If younger men are approaching you are loving it. Possibly insecure about their motives and what to do but loving it just the same...The sweeping statement about the older joes is grossly unfair and more than leading and suggesting .........

I met the father of my 2 youngest daughter when I was 31 and he was 23 at the time and we stayed together for 18 yrs and would have still been together if he had not became an alcoholic and drug user. We would laugh every night when in bed before going to sleep, we made each other laugh and the sex was HELLIFIED!! We both were Sags and our birthdays were a day apart.

I was 45 when I met the woman of my dreams and she was 60. Both Aries the romance was intense and the common interests were endless. She passed away shortly after we met and I am a better man for having known her. Like myself she was creative,sensual and emotionally complete. If only I could find another like her. Not a carbon copy mind you,but an ageless,short,sweet,sensual Aries woman whom I could Love into eternity. James Btw,I am 51(April 3)1958 California

I've read all the replies and there is truth to many of them. BUT those are their opinions. I was in a 23 year marriage with a man 7-1/2 years my junior, and we met when he was 20. He was more mature than many men my age and older at the time, and still is in many ways! I have now met someone 5 years younger. Unfortunately, I find men younger than myself to have a bit more energy and life in them. Also, if you look at the fact that women DO mature at an earlier age then men, AND live longer then men. It makes sense for an older woman to find a younger man. BUT this is by no means for everyone. And it is pretty old-fashioned in todays age to say that women are only looking for sugar daddies when they're with older men, or that younger men are only looking for sex. The Cougar issue actually began with older women looking for younger guys, not the other way around! Go to the bars and check it out ... I actually find it disgusting to watch an older woman falling all over a younger man when he is obviously NOT interested. She makes a fool of herself. BUT there are many relationships out there, and I personally know of some, where the woman is older and the man is younger and the relationship has lasted for quite awhile. From what I've been told by a lot of younger men is that the girls their age are just not mature. BUT I also get that answer from a lot of guys that are my age (50) and wonder why they aren't looking for the younger girls and they have said want someone they can relate to - it's not all about sex! So, if I were you, and I'm not, I would relax, and if you enjoy younger men, by all means go out and have a good time.

Right now it is something of a fad for younger guys to score with an older woman so he can brag about it all of his friends. They used to be into MILFs, but now the word of the day is Cougar. There are even "Date a Cougar" websites out there now. If all you want is sex, go for it, but if you want a relationship, look elsewhere.

Enjoy it now they may not be interested five years from now. The younger guys are looking for older women because most of the young ladies have old men as the boyfriends and Sugar Daddies !

Be happy, enjoy the compliment, means you are doing something right, doesn't mean you have to compromise who you are and what you want. After all you are still female.. purr!

I love younger guys and so excited about them. I have never dated a man of my age been late forties. I feel so stimimulated abd always been lucky by young guys approcak.
Hey No worries! I am here.

I find younger men refreshing. They are more open, less rigid and like to have fun. I dated a 29 year old who was wiser than most men in their 50's and he made 10K per week. I dated a 50 year old who was fun, but was very rigid and too critical. It's hard to generalize, but it is important to find the right person for you. If you get those red flags... move on.

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There is nothing strange about not desiring younger men, I am that way as well... I look at it as, knowing what I want and what I do not. I prefer to date men my age or older, nothing personal, just my preference. It is not about maturity, because my son is 28 years old and he is very mature for his age and so are his friends. It is also a fact, you can meet men who are 50-ish and are not very mature. I equate it with cooking, I just prefer seasoning on my meat when cooking, I do not like it bland... Most men are seasoned as they age... (big smile)

No, develop friendships, girl friendships - not lesbian (if you're not into that), but indeed, hang out with friends and enjoy your time being who you are. I'm sure you're not "desperate" but somewhat sound so. I'm with you on the "not Demi Moore" thingy, and never was...but men are just looking to score - really nothing more. Its the "instant gratification" thing. I'm not there and don't have the time or inclination...