Is there such a thing as a second chance with a man when it comes to the rules?

This is just my two cents but I don't see anything wrong in you contacting them first. I think the rules are still in tack because just because they want to meet doesnt mean you have too, and you could tell them you would like to get to know them a little more before you set up a meeting. I have found that men tend to want to meet right away and you do have to be careful.
kdnrwo

I've read and agree with some of "The Rules" but I also make up my own (dating rules for me, not the men I date).

I will answer a couple of things I noticed in your post:
1) "Can I wait before answering back and play hard to get from here on out?"

Yes, you can wait, but if you wait too long, that can convey a lack of interest. Generally speaking, if men think you have no interest, they simply move on. Probably none of us like it when the opposite sex plays games with us (like not returning calls).

2. "I already told him way too much about my current troubles with this or that in my life..."

Dating is supposed to be fun--- for both of you! Men invest thought, time (and money) in taking women out on dates. In fact, they sometimes go to considerable effort to make dates special. It's simply not pleasant and can be a real turn off for men if their date unloads or vents about their troubles or former boyfriends, husbands, etc. Instead, I think he wants to have fun & enjoy his time while out on the date! So... nothing negative on dates. There's a lot to be said for smiling, being nice, kind, feminine, and fun. Lastly, I'd say "thank you so much for a wonderful time with you!" And... I'd mean it.

Good luck!

I'm no expert but the book says at any time you can start doing the rules and see if it turns things around.

Hello ladies - I was hoping you could please, please advise me on what I am doing wrong.

I am a divorcee in my mid forties. I met a lady in her early forties and we hit it off like a house on fire. We made love regularly; I travelled to her house and stayed at weekends and eventually, after a month; we agreed to be exclusive. Her request and I agreed. A month or so later I said I thought I loved her and we saw each other even more often.

She has now said that I text her too much; phone and talk too long, and express too strong an emotion and she is moving away from me emotionally as a result. The ironic thing is that she texted me and phoned me far more often initially and I was responding to this.

I am puzzled! I have always been a gentleman. Travel a 390 mile round trip each weekend to be with her and pay for almost everything. She wants me to come to her and has now said she wants some space because she doesn't understand her feelings. I am confused and frustrated by her change of attitude. Am I stupid and have I been too romantic and nice? Your rules advocate men like me. I really do feel upset by this event.

She has had two serious relationships but lived with neither man and has never been engaged or married.

Help! I just don't understand.

R

Men and women alike will respond differently to those they meet and the only rules out there is ....keeping in mind that there are none.