Trust his Words or Actions?

Trust his Words or Actions?

Been dating a guy that said no strings attached after at the beginning. However, his actions speak
much differently. Says he is repressing his feelings. Do I listen to
his words or actions? We are both going through a 2nd divorce. This
isn't all about sex either, we do a lot of things together. WE are taking a vacation to my home town for three days. He has meet my son and mom, I have meet his two daughters. I have stayed at his home for several days in a row after seeing each other for awhile and spent the night even when his daughter was home. It isn't all about sex, but neither has experienced what we have together. He says he enjoys being around me, my company and of course the sex. I know he is scared and says he will never ever marry again. I can understand that coming out of a 2nd divorce. We have so much in common and have a lot of the same life goals.

We meet talking on line. I never ever thought I would meet him. I helped him through his wife leaving and was pretty blunt when I was chatting with him. He asked me out and I was very much regretting right up to answer the door. I opened up the screen door and my heart dropped. At the movies, we both reached over to hold hands at the same time. There has not been a day that goes by we haven't text or chatted! Because of him being a fireman, his schedule times our seeing each other, plus with his daughter at home (16). But on his four days, there has only been one of these he hasn't seen me and that was because I was coming to his house for 3 days (he only lives 35 minutes and work is 20 minutes from me) and he wanted to make sure everything was in order. He is currently out in the field working fires and maybe gone up to two weeks (we still talk and text everyday when he can). When he returns, that is supposed to be our plan to go away. However, since he has been away from his daughter, he needs to be with her (that's me saying that) for a while before he see's me. I totally understand. Though this is the second time we have planned this and hasn't gone through. Maybe third time is a charm?

 I am scared to get hurt again. I don't trust my gut instincts that tell me we will be together and this isn't just a short term thing.Do I need to just be patient and get to know him really well? I have never been in a relationship like this or friendship. He told me I am his very close personal friend. Don't relationships start off sometimes like this?

Any advice would be wonderful. I don't want to walk away from this.