Expert Advice: When to Say "I Love You"

QUESTION: I have been in a very intense relationship for over two months. He has brought me into every area of his life -- his family, friends, and business. It seems really fast, but I want to know how he feels. More specifically, I want to know whether he loves me the way I love him.

If actions speak louder than words, then this man is in love with me. But how can I give him confidence to express his feelings? What can I do to assure him that I'm a safe person? And how often should I bring up the subject? I will not wait beyond six months before moving on. I believe if he loves me he will verbally tell me within three to four months. Am I overreacting?

ANSWER: If you want your man to love you and if you want your relationship to last, slow down. If you want him to learn to trust you so he can express his feelings, slow down. Even if he is pushing for the relationship to go faster, slow it down to a steady, calm pace.

Trust takes time to develop and does not come in just a few months. It is reasonable for a couple to date a year or more before they profess their love for each other.

Master Certified Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries coaches singles to attract and build loving, fulfilling, long-term relationships. For more information about Coach Rinatta Paries and the myriad of services she has created for singles, visit her Web site, WhatItTakes.com.