Five Steps to Finding New Romance

When you come clean with people, you break through the shame barrier, exposing your deepest fears and insecurities and discovering that you are still accepted. Being rigorously honest with yourself and with select others cleanses your abandonment wound. Once you are able to break through the secret of shame, healing begins on a deeper level.4. Become Your Higher SelfAs you continue reaching out for new activities and sharing yourself honestly and openly, you'll begin to realize your capacity for growth on many levels. As you are expanding your capabilities and needs as a person, you are becoming your higher self.5. Share Your Higher Self With Significant OthersAvoid those who cause you to revert to your old patterns. Your goal is to create relationships based on substantial emotional benefits such as trust and comfort, rather than an emotional high.Surrender to the losses of the past. Accept yourself as you are. The shame, vulnerability and self-doubt rising out of your past are as much a part of your personal truth as your talents and accomplishments are. They are worth sharing and may be the very reason someone new feels comfortable with you. In the kind of relationship you are looking for, you can wear your vulnerability openly, without shame. Remain open to your partner's most basic fears, needs and vulnerabilities as well.