How to Flirt over Age 50

Hair flips, flirty giggles and mini skirts are perfectly acceptable in our 20s but as we start to enter into our grayerahem, goldenyears, it's important for midlife daters to adopt new come-hither tools. Culled from top flirting experts, check out these three age-appropriate rules to attract the attention you crave. Tip #1 Keep it subtle Whether it be a slight thigh graze or simple smile, less is definitely more for those in the 50 and over bracket. "People over 50 are usually not as demonstrative in public," Susan Rabin, author of How to Attract Anyone, Anytime, Anyplace: The Smart Guide to Flirting, tells Happen magazine. Rabin advises women to replace PDAs with almost touches, such as resting your head on his shoulder or picking a small piece of lint of his jacket." The same applies to your attire, where indication, not flaunting, is a more appealing bet. "There is not much to be gained by the skirt hike in this bracket," Rabin says. "Same thing goes with leaning in to flash cleavage, wearing something see-through/too tight or other obvious sexual signals." Instead, Rabin suggests wearing a pendant that draws attention to a womans dcolletage. "It still draws a man's attention to her bosom, which is a turn-on for the typically visual male, but it does so without a direct 'look at my chest' message," says Rabin.

Tip#2 Develop Conversational Skills

Although sexual innuendos were fun in our 20s, dating in our 50s means we have to cultivate better conversational skills.

"You just simply have to have better flirting skills over 50," says Rabin. "That includes listening, but also talking to people in line at the supermarket or while waiting for a latte."

Rabin suggests asking open-ended questions, such as Have you been to this new restaurant? I heard its wonderful, or throwing in a sincere compliment.

And when the chatter dies down, try exchanging a knowing look or flashing a smile.

In honing the art of flirting, there is something to be said for a well-timed glance and grin, which is so effective it actually works at any age, writes Kimberly Dawn Neumann, for msn.com.

Tip#3 Keep it fun

Perhaps one of the more appealing aspects of flirting over 50 is the casual intent. People at this age arent looking to settle down or have childrenso we can flirt for the sake of flirting.

I define flirting as acting amorously without serious intent," says Rabin. The endgame is different, so [people over 50] can just enjoy the process of being witty, playful and charming."

And the best part? Theres nothing like a swift boost to your confidence like a successful flirting session.

"Flirting is a great way to be reminded that you've still got it," says Rabin.

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