How To Handle A Breakup

Luckily, we have another part of the brain we can use to override the self-reference center. The book calls this our “wise advocate.” “The wise advocate is similar to the Higher Power of 12-step programs or God or Jesus in the Christian religion,” Schwartz notes. All of us have inside of us something that guides us, aids us and counsels us that is connected to our rational mind. “Research shows that when you use ‘mindful awareness’ or your wise advocate, you can change the belief that someone else’s inappropriate behavior reflects on you,” says  Schwartz. “It’s not about you.” When you change your belief you ease the emotional and physical pain.  Once you listen to your wise advocate you can refocus on helpful responses: go to counseling, get a lawyer, move out of your house – active things that prevent you from being stuck in one spot. When you activate new areas of the brain, new brain circuits can form that support positive thinking instead of miserable musing.  Although it takes a scientific approach, You Are Not Your Brain discusses the difference a spiritual foundation can make in the process of ending unhealthy thinking. Read this fascinating book for more on how you can rewire your brain and take control of your life. Judy Kirkwood is definitely going to call on her wise advocate to rewire her brain.