Unfortunately, most people are not sure whom they are dating, or even being intimate with, or sometimes even living with, or -- worst of all -- married to. Most people think they know whom they are with, but in reality they do not.
Sounds crazy, doesn't it? How is it possible to be so very close to someone and yet have no idea who the person actually is?
It starts with what happens to people when they are single. It is the rare single person who is dating and yet is neutral about being in a relationship. In other words, most singles who are dating are doing so for the purpose of connecting with someone special. Not all want marriage, or even to live with someone; but most want a connection.
This desire for a connection clouds people's judgment. They see whom they want to see and not the person in front of them. On top of that, many singles make mistakes at the start of a new relationship, such as moving too quickly, which clouds their judgment even more.
It's not that if you actually were able to see the person you were dating you would suddenly realize that he or she is all wrong for you, although that is possible. There is also a good chance you would find out the person is just right for you.
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