5. Certain sporting events are good icebreakers, especially baseball games. You can talk and sing without disrupting others. Games last up to three hours, but you can leave anytime. Bonuses: hot dogs, Cracker Jacks -- and you might see an interesting game.
Football games aren't so hot since the guy might try to explain every play. Auto races aren't good because you can't hear. Professional golf matches are so-so; you get exercise, but have to be quiet when golfers address the ball.
6. Enjoy a walk together (if trust has been established or if a mutual friend has vouched for her character) around the lake, on the beach, in the harbor, in the park, or at any popular walking sites in your city.
7. Some try dancing, when both people know how. It allows closeness and touching without being suggestive. And, you'll get exercise!
8. Movies or the theater are limiting. Biggest drawback: no talking during performances; you won't learn much about your date.
If you're meeting a stranger, your date options are limited. Put safety first. Drive your own car. Meet in a well-lighted, public place where people are present. Keep the date simple -- coffee or a light meal.
Tell friends where you'll be and who you'll be with or ask the coffee house manager to keep an eye on you, explaining that you'll be with a stranger. Trust your instincts. Even if you feel comfortable, don't accept a lift to your car.
In all circumstances, have fun and get to know each other. And, if all goes well, the door's open for a second date!
Tom Blake is the author of Middle Aged and Dating Again (Tooter's, 1997).
