There are times in our lives when we feel our goals and desires pulling us forward. At other times, though, we feel like we're pushing, pushing, pushing to reach those goals.
And one goal many singles and paired people share is pushing for a good relationship. While some do attract and create solid partnerships this way, the majority if folks continue to struggle, getting disappointed and giving up.
Those who surrender the struggle and allow themselves to be pulled will attract mates more quickly and easily. Why's that? Well, when you're pulled forward by a goal, it's more likely that you'll achieve it. Serendipity takes shape, doors open, and events carry you toward your desire.
So, how do you take a chill pill and allow your desire for a healthy relationship and a wonderful mate pull you forward? Follow these three steps:
1. Resolve the internal conflict of interest. Say to yourself, out loud, "I want to be in a wonderful relationship," or something similar about your goal. As you say this, notice how you feel. Pay attention to any words or phrases that immediately come to mind. You might hear yourself saying, "There are no potential partners out there"; "I'll get hurt"; "I am afraid"; or "No one will love me." You may also feel a tightening in your gut or some fear.
Write down the negative comments, reactions and emotions, then find resourceful ways to disprove them, understanding that you can't attract a loving partner if you think they don't exist. Dig into your emotions about getting what you want and look at what's behind them. What makes you afraid or sad? Get to a point where you can say what you want, out loud, and all you feel is joy and excitement about its possibilities.2. Make sure the kind of partner and relationship you're reaching for fits who you are. What kind of relationship do you want? What's most important to you? What kind of a partner will fit you? Be clear on the character traits you're looking for so you can recognize the person when you see him, or you'll wind up choosing a partner by chemistry or need -- and that seldomly, if ever, works out.3. It's likely you'll get the love you want. Can you believe it's likely you'll have the love you want? If you can't, then you probably won't. We don't usually try to achieve things we think are unlikely, so if you believe it's impossible, you're not gonna take the steps to make it possible. This is a major shift from resignation or searching to having the faith and the patience to do and learn the necessary things to attract love. Set your mind to having your goals pull you forward, and you're certain to realize your dream relationship.Master Certified Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries coaches singles to attract and build loving, fulfilling, long-term relationships.
Source: Relationships & Love
