There are times in our lives when we feel our goals and desires pulling us forward. At other times, though, we feel like we're pushing, pushing, pushing to reach those goals.
And one goal many singles and paired people share is pushing for a good relationship. While some do attract and create solid partnerships this way, the majority if folks continue to struggle, getting disappointed and giving up.
Those who surrender the struggle and allow themselves to be pulled will attract mates more quickly and easily. Why's that? Well, when you're pulled forward by a goal, it's more likely that you'll achieve it. Serendipity takes shape, doors open, and events carry you toward your desire.
So, how do you take a chill pill and allow your desire for a healthy relationship and a wonderful mate pull you forward? Follow these three steps:
1. Resolve the internal conflict of interest. Say to yourself, out loud, "I want to be in a wonderful relationship," or something similar about your goal. As you say this, notice how you feel. Pay attention to any words or phrases that immediately come to mind. You might hear yourself saying, "There are no potential partners out there"; "I'll get hurt"; "I am afraid"; or "No one will love me." You may also feel a tightening in your gut or some fear.
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