The Art of Flirting
No matter what you think, to be a great flirt it's not necessary to be devastatingly attractive, rich, smooth, or good at batting your eyelashes. To master the fine art of flirting, you must decide you want to be a flirt.
And because flirting requires a carefree heart, it is essential that you begin with reasonable expectations. This has multiple benefits: You are more likely to have small triumphs at the beginning, which will encourage you to continue. You have less invested in flirting, thereby making you more discriminating about when and with whom you flirt. And you'll have fewer initial mistakes, particularly the most common error, that of overdoing.
Think of flirting as exercise. Like exercising, it is always tough to do at the beginning. You may be out of shape after being out of the dating game for a while. Or maybe you were never in prime flirting shape. Read on for 20 tips that will help you become a great flirt and spice up your love life.
1. Use Flattery
Flattery is to flirting what a match is to dynamite. Explosive. So to refine the power of flattery, you must be sincere. Expert, mutually rewarding flattery is harder to pull off than most people think. Here are some guidelines:
- Figure out what strikes you about this person.
- What potentially flattering statements would he or she most like to hear from someone else? What area of his or her person, accomplishments, or activities have not been totally confirmed by society?
- Once you determine this, use it.
Flattery is most effective when there is an element of surprise. When someone doesn't expect the compliment. Telling a CEO that he is "doing great things for his company" is nice. But saying that you "love his sense of humor and his smile" will make his day. The first compliment he knows himself, the second he may suspect, but the fact that you mentioned this is delightful and surprising.
2. Say Hello With Energy
When you say hello, pretend that there is an electrical current pulsating through your body. It is brief -- like turning on a light bulb just for a second. Remember that what follows from an introduction or meeting depends on how your new acquaintance perceives your hello.
