Why He's Not That Into You

4. The Park Avenue Princess
The Princess rears her haughty head when he senses that you're more concerned with how much he'll spend on you than how much he'll love you. Being a "Park Avenue Princess" sounds like a nice title to have, except when you're looking for love. Men have an extreme distaste for the money-hungry women of the world, who also tend to be high maintenance and self-centered.
A woman at Soho House "was a member, I wasn't, but I frequented the room enough to keep up," recalls Muggenthaler. "We went out three times, and each time she ran into these great-looking, single-ish guys, and they seemed to have a 'where have you been, you kind of disappeared' attitude towards her. I knew that if I didn't break it off at that moment, she'd drain me financially, socially and emotionally over a very short period of time."
Princesses are women who make men feel like they'll never be able to afford them, and lack appreciation when the dude picks up the check. These dudes tell Greenwald that "a heartfelt thank-you went a long way."
"You can't always tell right away if the girl has an agenda, but once you get to know her a little bit, you see that her priorities are out of whack or that she's a social climber," says Walter Schultz, an art director uninterested in being anybody's sugar daddy. "She would have been really disappointed if she had gotten to know me better!"
5. The Bitch in Boots
It seems obvious that being rude to your date is a no-no, but the Bitch is notorious for nasty remarks. This diva gets bent out of shape easily, and guys blame edgy and aggressive behavior for the reason they didn't follow up. Greenwald says these girls need to "lose the tone, admit your mistake, reschedule the date and be your own p.r. agent."
Lewis, 34, tells the tale of a dinner date gone south. "She picked a really embarrassing fight with me at a restaurant, and I laughed at her -- that didn't go over too well." The same girl, he says, divulged unnecessary information about her past, which Lewis says is "nice to share, but not when you barely know someone."
Greenwald encourages women to get to the second date by avoiding what she calls "landmines." By avoiding sticky subjects, the guy will call you again, and you'll go on a second date. And Greenwald advises men: "If you decide after three or four dates that this person isn't for you, at least you've given them a chance to prove themselves, and it wasn't just one thing they did on the first date that turned you off."
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