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Dealing with depression
Posted 7/29/08 10:15 PM
Dealing with depression
My husband has been rather depressed lately. I think he's tired of working (and I don't blame him) and I have a feeling he's a little bored with his day-to-day routine. I'm trying to help by being loving and supportive. I've even surprised him a few times with special dates and gifts. We have a really great relationships, and it pains me to see him like this.
I've suggested that maybe it might be beneficial to speak with a therapist or see his doctor. He's hesitant. I want to be sure to nip this in the bud before it gets out of control for him and for our relationship.
What should I do? Anyone else have spouses who are struggling with depression?
Posted 07/02/09 12:55 PM
Depression
I hope your husband is better by now. This is a problem for so many folks and they arre embarrassed to seek mental health. I battled
depression some years ago and the first thing to do is to get help. If he won't see a therapist, you see one and learn how to do best for him.
May God Bless.
Posted 02/07/09 1:15 PM
Overcome Depression
Take a good B Complex vitamin and Omega 3's [1000mg 2 in am and 2 in pm]. Diet has a lot to do with depression and can also be brought on by hormonal changes - have your thryroid checked. It is not a chemical imbalance in the brain as once thought. Whatever you do - don't take anti-depressants -they are no better than a placebo- and they change the brains chemistry giving you more problems than you had before. They also take away feelings of love and attachment. I have a friend so screwed up on these medications she doesn't even get it. She left her H and Toddlers and is doing things she would never think of doing before these medications. Sad.
Good luck.
Posted 02/03/09 11:34 AM
I could write TONS regarding
I could write TONS regarding this, but right now, I just want to share that "my husband" was going through this "depression", and I babied him, sent him to our pcp (who, in my opinion, really missed the mark in not sending him to a therapist), and he walked out on me after 29 years together in October (2 weeks after I had had cervical neurosurgery and still wasn't even permitted to drive!). He turned 50 this year, and it all went downhill from there. Needless to say, I'm still devastated, but very angry also. I haven't worked while raising our three sons (two are still in college) due to numerous surgeries and health problems, and now, about to turn 50, I need to "find a career", and I'm in constant physical pain to boot...With all of the stress caused by these actions, I don't think my surgery ever healed. (but I also was carrying my poor dog up and down the stairs who died in December..all three of my dogs died in 2008!!!...) Hopefully, your husband isn't selfish and truly values you and your relationship, because mine just walked away from everything.. He went on all kinds of motorcycle trips, which I "allowed", since I felt he deserved his own happiness, but I feel they only drove him further from our marriage..
Posted 04/26/09 2:11 AM
Hi Thehours. Read your post
Hi Thehours. Read your post and hope your are doing better physically and emotionally. Sounds like you had a real rough time a couple of months ago (it's end of April 09) and I am sending my supportive thoughts and prayers to you. Take good care. All blessings to you.
Posted 12/21/08 6:28 AM
Well, i think from my point
Well, i think from my point of view your husband needs a break from daily routines! i would definately recommend a 15 day vacation because same cased i heard .. which came out like that .. the guy later had faulty thoughts about his boring life and wasnt satisfied no way near. So its better to do it fast rather than taking it lightly and make you husband some what near to have positive thoughts.
And also their are some website on internet which i searched around for you , met wanna check it out
www.Awake2000.com ... they have some amount of knowledge regarding positive thoughts.
Cheers
- John Kiggs
Posted 12/08/08 10:20 PM
Friends Who Don't Get It
I have a 'friend' who is MAD at me because I haven't been calling her lately. Even beside the fact that I have a troublesome cellphone which doesn't always work, she just doesn't get it that sometimes I CAN'T reach out to other people! When I am feeling my lowest, it is literally impossible for me to talk to people. The simple question "how was your weekend?" nearly undoes me. She doesn't understand why I'm not calling her to ask how she is and find out what's going on in her life. I can hardly handle my own life! Why don't people understand???
Posted 10/31/08 12:01 AM
wife depressed
My wife has been depressed for sometime now. I need to find help. She states that she hates herself-doesn't like herself. Our great relationship is going down the drain what can I do? Is it spiritual, medical, mental?
Posted 09/27/08 7:41 AM
Dealing with Depression
Depression is not like a cold. It can take longer to get over than having gall bladder problems. There is no one magical word, deed, or pill. Having seen a lot of depression over the years, in others as well as in myself, here are some suggestions:
1. See a Psychotherapist - Therapy & medication can be very helpful.
2. Use relaxation therapy music for increasing sleep and decreasing anxiety.
3. Work in the garden, yard, plant a tree, flowers, use the flower pots freely if space is available. Get your hands dirty. There is power in Mother Earth and it can be very balancing and healing.
4. Exercise for at least 40 minutes a day, starting with walking. Don't be in a race, but don't fall asleep walking either.
5. Get nutritional information from your doctor.
6. Return to or improve your religious thoughts and act on them.
7. Drink water, not soda.
8. Smile more.
9. Laugh. Watch comedies that make you laugh. Find people that make you laugh.
10. Give thanks, be thankful, and share good thoughts with others.
11. When in a relationship, add something new and positive to your routine. Go away for the weekend to a bed and breakfast.
12. Stay away from drugs and alcohol.
Posted 08/03/08 9:37 AM
Yep!
I have dealt with it personally. My children have dealt with it My spouses and my present signifcant guy have dealt with it.
I am an MSW trained in psychology, sociology, family relations, etc. I find that medications can help but one must also work on the "root" of the problem through psychotherapy (individual and/or group). Other things like making sure that something physical is causing or contributing to the depression is a good idea. I have low thyroid and if I don't take synthroid every day that can also add to the possibility o depression.
Many people who come from families where alcoholism is present are also prone to depression. That has been true in my case and in the case of everyone I know who has dealt with depression, Any disfunctional family is a good breeding ground for depression.
Lacking in certain vitamins particularly the B vitamins can contribute to drepression and other mental problems. Body chemistry is usually out of whack. I don't know if the depression causes it or the chemistry causes it or both. But they are related.
There is a lot of information on the internet regarding depression. You can google "depression" and get a ton of stuff. Educate yourself and your spouse.
Try what works and what you are open to.
I am presently on a low dose of a generic for Zoloft and it seems to help but like I say, it takes working on more areas than just taking medication.
They say that depression is anger turned inward. One has to be willing to take a look at that possibility. :)
Good luck to you and your husband.
Brenda
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