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what should i do
Posted 4/29/09 5:01 PM
what should i do
what should i do, me and my wife we are not divorced yet just seperated for a month now, she found another man and i guess fell in love with him, i never even seen this coming up until a month ago, she never gave me any indication she was unhappy or anything, when i found out about this i was hurt and me and her tried working through it just seems like she dont want to work at our marriage, one day she tells me she wants to be with him and then the next day she wants to be with me so i just dont know what to do, i still love her and will always love her, but i could not live in that type of situation. the past week or so she has been calling me and we even went out to dinner and then came back to my place and talked and made out for a while she says she still loves me but when the weekend comes i dont hear from her until he is gone and then she calls me up and sees what is going on. I just dont know what to do anymore because i still love her with all my heart, any recommendations any would be appreciated
Posted 10/25/09 2:45 AM
This was me
I was married two times now and im only 30 years old. I left him for someone who made me feel alive. I wanted the security of money. and having a nice place to live and all that, but what my husband lacked was the ability to let loose and be dangerous.. have a good time you know. You have to make her feel the way this other guy is making her feel. but in your own way. I dont believe in the saying oh well sit back and if she comes to you then it was meant to be... no im sorry if you want it and its yours than you need to put in effort to go get it.
Posted 10/06/09 10:43 PM
It sounds like you are her
It sounds like you are her old standby. Stop making yourself so available to her. Spend some time alone so that you might clear your head. Give yourself some space for healing. You are clearly wounded at this time. Also give her some space so that she can make up her mind about whether or not to finally let go and move on with her life. She probably doesn't even know how she really feels about this guy. Stop being her safe haven. For your sake as well as hers. If you believe in counseling, seek a competent professional. Best wishes.
Posted 05/04/09 11:53 AM
Sorry for you pain..
I am in a similar situation except there is not another man. My wife just wants to party. She's 25. My advice: think with your head, not your heart. I know the pain is hard to stand, but think of a logical solution that both of you can live with. If your wife can't make up her mind, you have to make up yours. The logical solution (I know this is not what you want to hear), would be to move on or get counceling. Good luck to you!
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