What has the potential to make divorce even more stressful and ugly than usual? Kids. It's critical to realize that these younger, powerless individuals are actually active participants in a divorce. That in mind, take a look at the following tips to help parting parents focus on their children's well being during this difficult process.
1. Keep them informed
Children are perceptive. While they don't need to be exposed to every detail of your divorce, shutting them off from the process completely can lead to feelings of isolation and confusion. With a lack of explanation, they'll often blame themselves for the break-up.
Promote an environment of open, honest communication. Take time to carefully articulate the reasons for the divorce and consistently encourage children to ask questions. If you're unable to separate feelings of resentment or anger towards your spouse in these conversations, let a friend, teacher, spiritual leader or therapist talk with your child instead.
2. Be a role model
Role models, particularly parents, play a strong role in children's self-esteem and character development. Remember that your kids are watching you and how you handle yourself. It's critical to acknowledge and deal with emotions such as anger and grief, but do so during private time and through a support network of friends, family and, if necessary, a therapist.
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