Helping Kids Through Your Divorce
When dealing with the business of your case, set aside these powerful feelings. Handling this process like a professional sends a positive message to your children and teaches valuable life lessons about acting responsibly even through rough times.
3. Repair the cynicism
It's common to lose your faith in relationships and partnerships after a divorce, but it's unfair to pass this belief on to younger family members. Children must have some understanding of the reason your relationship didn't work so they see the divorce as situation-specific. Make sure your dialogue and actions aren't projecting a damaging picture of relationships to your children.
4. Give them a job
While they shouldn't be made a part of your legal team, it's crucial to let children be involved in the transitions that occur after divorce. If the split means relocation or a change in lifestyle, make children a part of related tasks. Give a young child the responsibility of cutting out coupons to help cut grocery costs. Take them with you when looking at potential relocation areas.
5. Pay attention
It's easy to be distracted by the many emotional and business issues involved in a divorce. These tough times of transitions can be the catalyst to negative and even harmful behavior for children, including violence, drug or alcohol abuse and depression. Again, communication is critical and drastic changes in behavior should be addressed. If necessary, consult the advice of a licensed counselor or therapist.