How to Repair a Broken Heart

While it feels devastating now, the truth is that the pain will pass and eventually, you will recover. To do so, you will need to work through the four healing emotions:

• Sadness
• Anger
• Fear
• Sorrow

Commonly, we feel that our friends and family may tire of hearing us talk over and over about the same topic. If you find this happening, it may be time to seek outside help. Personal coaches, therapists and clergy are all trained on how to support people dealing with profound loss.

As people begin to share their feelings, it is natural to feel drawn to one of the four emotions more powerfully than another. Perhaps you are really angry at your ex, or perhaps you are primarily sad about losing your partner.

Often this pull toward one feeling will cause a person to get "stuck" in an emotion. Why does this happen? We all have a natural, inborn desire to avoid short-term pain. We may resist certain feelings because they are "wrong" in our mind. Many people grow up believing that it's not OK to feel the full range of human emotion. Parents and friends may not have affirmed your right to have your feelings without rejection, punishment or ridicule.