The Post-Divorce Valentine's Day
Who dreads Valentine’s Day more than single women with no romantic interest in their lives? Recently divorced women.
But there is hope for a new kind of Valentine’s celebration. On a day when “I love you, darling” is shoved down our throats, maybe we should be expressing our gratitude to those who stuck by us through the valley of depression, or making the day special for our children or grandchildren.
“This is a chance to embrace love - but to diversify the definition,” says Dr. Ramani Durvasula, professor of psychology and frequent media contributor. “It could be a day to bring together your tribe - children, friends, family – and celebrate with whomever infuses your life with love on a daily basis.”
This is also a great day to put out intentions, adds Dr. Ramani. “About six weeks ago most of us made New Year's resolutions; perhaps VDay can be a day for making resolutions for self-love - list out the classes you want to take, trips you hope to take, dreams you want to pursue, restaurants to try, recipes to cook, etc. Dating yourself, planning a life around yourself, is the ultimate expression of love.”
Saideh Browne of the Browne Center for Success and Wellness in Hoboken, NJ, who has been married for 20 years, has a wonderful idea: “I have two clients who divorced within the past three months and one who recently filed for separation. I have decided to host a Dream Board party [where participants map out their vision for the future] for the women to enjoy the company of others who truly love them and celebrate the splendor of their lives. I honor marriage, but I honor myself more and my message for the women the night of our party will be to celebrate life and their role in it.” Bravo!