Top 5 Reasons Sex Addiction-Afflicted Couples Call It Quits

Now that Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren have officially split (and she's spilled the beans about the break-up to People Magazine), it's safe to say that Elin wasn't swayed by Tiger's claim to be a "sex addict."

But do sex addicts deserve our sympathy or our scorn? Is it even a real disease?

For that and more, we turn to the founding director of Los Angeles-based Sexual Recovery Institute, Robert Weiss. He offers professional insight into what is often behind the decision for spouses of sex addicts to move on:

"Unfortunately togetherness is not always in the cards for the spouses and families affected by sexual addiction. Approximately twenty percent of married clients seen for sexual addiction treatment do not remain together in the first year following the shock of what often are horrendous disclosures of infidelity."

"Couples affected by sex addiction are less likely to stay together when:

1. They are married less than five years before discovery.

2. They do not follow-through on long-term recommendations for individual and family therapy.

3. There were multiple recent experiences of broken promises and betrayal.

4. A couple did not know each other well before marriage.

5. The details of the betrayal have become well known among family, friends, and the general public."

"Unlike the hurt and anger experienced by wives and partners struggling through the discovery of an affair or occasional visits to prostitutes, when sexual addiction exists there is a much higher level of betrayal, loss and pain for both partners."Having treated hundreds of couples suffering from the pain and loss associated with sexual addiction, Weiss does believe that no matter what path couples choose, there is often a silver lining:"Sex addicts like Tiger Woods can learn from the painful mistakes of their past if they stay involved in recovery and their own healing. Thus they learn the hard way; the irreplaceable value of an intimate trusting partner and are careful not to make the same mistakes a second time.""Spouses of sex addicts, like Elin Nordegren, who choose to end their relationships and heal sans their significant other, often find themselves on a positive journey toward self-discovery and strength. Over time, they learn to be more trusting of their own instincts and emotions; and next time love comes knocking at the door they are equipped with the knowledge and experience of their past which can lead to choosing a healthy, trusting, and truly amazing relationship."
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