Expert Voices

Karen Sherman

Karen Sherman

Relationships, Marriage, Caregiving

Dr. Karen Sherman, a licensed psychologist in New York, has been in private practice for over 20 years. Her focus is relationships/marriage and helping people achieve their greatest potential. Karen is the author of Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, and Make It Last, and Mindfulness and The Art of Choice: Transform Your Life which focuses on enabling people to let go of old reactive patterns to empower their own choices. She also contributed to "Self-Improvement 101, Vol. 2," writing a chapter about overcoming stress.

Loving Life

"Life is short." No doubt that is an expression you have all heard and I'm going to guess that most of you would agree with it. But the question that is really relevant is, "Do you live in a way that embraces that concept?"

Clearly, life is also stressful. There just seems to be so much to do. And though technology was supposed to make life easier, it seems to have only added to our burden of making life more complex and adding onto the endless "to do" list.

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Imperfect Perfection in Your Relationships

The other day I was doing a special teaching assignment at one of our local High Schools. I decided to speak to the students about relationships in order to better educate them about what to expect in a long-term commitment.

My presentation certainly wasn't the romanticized version that is so often depicted in our movies and novels. But I also know it was a more realistic view that would better equip them to have a good foundation. I truly believe that if more couples knew what to expect in marriage, there would be far less divorce.

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Q:

I'm a manager at a small office and am starting to wonder if my employees' "sick days" are related to trouble at home. Is there a way I can help without interfering in their personal lives?

A:
It has even been shown that issues at home will have consequences on attendance. Many people end up staying out because they’re so upset. And ... Read More...

How Are Your Relationships Going?

Sometimes, life seems so complicated especially when it involves your relationships with other people. How should you act? What should you say? Should you continue to do what you've been doing? Is what you've been doing or saying the best way to go about what you're hoping to accomplish?

If someone means something to you, you certainly want things to go as smoothly as possible. At times, the individual you are dealing with may not have personal emotional significance but it's still important how your interactions go because (s)he is your boss, important to your significant other, or will somehow impact those for whom you care.

Are you spinning your wheels?

Yes, personal interactions are delicate. So, how do you figure it out? Read more…

Different Kinds of Love

Somewhere along the way, you have most likely learned that Eskimos have many different names for snow. In our society, how often you may hear the words, "I love you." Of course, no doubt you realize that there are different kinds of love: the love between a parent and child, the love exchanged between two friends, and certainly those words are used in relationship to your partner.

But even when discussing the relationship between two people, there are different kinds of love. And perhaps if you're not aware of this, you can easily be disappointed and feel that the relationship you have is missing something. A recent article I read spoke about the fact that a couple can, in fact, have romantic love that lasts a lifetime.

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Relationship Red Flags

If you have been a reader of my posts, then you know that I often tell you that good relationships are quite rewarding -- but in order to have one, you have to work at it. Today, I want to address some of the ways to know if the person you're meeting will even make a good candidate with whom to have a relationship.

I've also cautioned you, as the reader, that a person is unlikely to change once they're in a partnership. Who you see is who you are going to get. And for sure, you don't have the right to expect to change the person.

Why you get in trouble

But there are indicators to help you make a decision -- yes, those "red flags." Read more…

Are You Stuck in Regret?

Have you ever made a mistake? Of course, you have. We all have. Do you look back at some of those mistakes or choices you made and have regrets? My guess is that many of you are answering in the affirmative.

I decided to write about this because of a conversation I had recently with someone very dear to me. And the truth is that if you're walking around filled with regret and remorse it's going to impact how you feel about yourself and also affect your relationships. It certainly seems to be a topic worthy of discussion. Read more…

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