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Rinatta Paries

Rinatta Paries

Dating, Love and Romance

Love Coach Rinatta Paries is a graduate of Coach University, a Master Certified Coach, and a Certified Relationship Specialist by the American Psychiatric Association. She has been helping clients heal their hearts, break their relationship patterns and create loving relationships for more than 14 years. She has written more than 150 articles and six ebooks on love and relationships, and is an avid proponent of personal growth and development as a tool to create lasting love.

Using the Law of Attraction to Create the Life You Want

Posted March 24, 2009 3:50 AM

I am sure you have heard of the Secret, in fact it’s now pretty much old news. However, Law of Attraction ideas are going stronger than ever and are here to stay.

But what is Law of Attraction and how can it help you in your life, your relationship?

In essence, the Law of Attraction teaches that life is lived forward as opposed to backwards. What this means is that you create life as you go. What you do, think and how you react today creates tomorrow. This makes sense, of course if you think about it. If you overeat today, you are not going to feel good tomorrow. If you get into a fight with your significant other today, you are going to feel bad or have to make up tomorrow. Read more…

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The 11 Rules of Good Relationship Communication

Posted April 28, 2008 1:22 PM

Here are the basic rules of good communication:

1. The speaker can say what he or she thinks needs to be said, except for derogatory statements, shaming words, blaming words and globalizing words. Nothing to inflame the conversation. Just facts, feelings and true and honest thoughts.

2. The listener fully listens to what is being said -- even when having a reaction. Breathing through the reactions, giving the speaker the respect of being listened to.

3. When the speaker is done, the listener will reflect back to the speaker a summarized version of what the speaker said, to make sure the speaker is fully understood. Read more…

See Also: communication, listen, marriage, relationship, resolution, rules, speak

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I have been divorced for about seven years. This was my third marriage, but one thing was different; I didn't feel "alone" after he left. Most of my life I have been a "Care Giver." This is the first time I have concentrated on my needs and what I want out of life. My question is: most of my family and friends keep trying to set me up with men. I'm working two jobs so I will be debt free before I retire. For the most part I am happy with my life. But nothing I say seems to get through to them. It's not that I want to spend the rest of my life alone, but I am very picky about who I would want to spend the rest of my life with. Am I wrong for being so picky this late in life? For workng so much?

 

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Dear cjr2148, Thank you for asking me to answer your question. The short answer is you get to choose how you live your life. And you are to ... Read More...

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When to Get Relationship Help

Posted April 28, 2008 12:59 PM
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How to Be Romantic on Valentine's Day for Couples and Singles

Posted April 28, 2008 12:23 PM

Rarely does Valentine's Day pass by without your notice. Evenif you are single and think the day has no significance, the day will arrive and you will want a relationship more than usual. If you are in a relationship and Valentine's Day does not get celebrated, it will leave hurt and resentment in its wake.

I invite you to think of Valentine's Day as "Focus on Love Day," as opposed to "Hurt About Lack of Love Day" or "Ignore Being Single Day." Read more…

See Also: dating, marriage, passion, romance. love

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Last Minute Valentine's Idea to Make Your Valentine Happy

Posted February 12, 2008 12:00 PM

What will make your valentine happy and satisfied on Valentine’s Day?

Tip for men: If it’s a woman you are trying to please – whether your wife or girlfriend – above all, give her attention. She will enjoy the gifts and the card and

flowers if you give them. But mostly she will want you to focus on her, to tell her you love her, to spend time with her without distractions.

Make Valentine’s Day a smashing success by making sure that wherever you are and whatever you do, you give your beloved lady time, attention and focus.

Here are some ideas:

• Call her from work and tell her you are thinking about her.
• Linger a little with her when you first see her. Hold her a bit tighter and give her a bit of a longer kiss.
• If you are going out to dinner or a show, having an intimate dinner at home, or even dinner with the kids, pay less attention to what’s going on around you and more attention to her.
• Make sure to end the night with some more extra attention, of whatever kind you choose 

Tip for women: If it’s a man you are trying to please – whether your husband or boyfriend – above all give him approval. He will also enjoy the gifts and the card. Read more…

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The Best Valentine's Gift to Give Your Loved One and/or Yourself

Posted February 01, 2008 12:31 AM

Flowers, candy, massages and gourmet dinners are all wonderful things to do for your loved one – or for yourself if you are single – on Valentine’s Day.

However, the appreciation of those things or the enjoyment of them will only last for a little while. Then the effect and good feelings will fade. What will remain unchanged is the current state of your relationship, or if you are single, your singlehood.

For many people, Valentine’s is secretly the day they hope their relationship will somehow magically turn around and be better from then on. Men and women everywhere secretly hope that their partner will finally get a clue about how to give the love or the consideration that have been needing in the relationship, so that there is a “happily ever after.”

Singles secretly hope that maybe they will finally meet the right partner by this Valentine’s Day and get the love they crave, want and deserve.

The candy, flowers and other things normally given or done on Valentine’s Day will not work that hoped-for magic. They will not permanently remake the relationship, they will not change frustration to happiness nor will they really make up for anything in a relationship. And they certainly will not bring in the right partner.

But you can have that magic you are secretly wishing for. You can have a relationship that works. You can meet the right partner. It may not happen exactly by or on Valentine’s Day, but you can get a good start and feel hopeful about your relationship future. And that may be the best present you can give yourself and/or your partner. Read more…

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