Susan Anderson

For many, Valentines Day is another reminder of the love that seems to be missing in our lives, causing our abandonment issues to rise to the surface. 

Some of us are alone because we haven't been able to find that someone special. The lack of belonging to someone feels especially painful at this time.

Some of us are going through a breakup, and our sense of loss and longing intensify as Valentine's Day approaches.

Some of us are caught up in patterns of abandonment and feel frustrated with ourselves as well as our potential lovers.

Some of us are in relationships in which we feel a loss of love. Valentine's Day reminds us that our romantic dreams are not fulfilled. Read more…

You're in a committed relationship. Or so you thought. But do you get the feeling that one of you is hedging your bets? Does your mate still act as if he or she is interested in meeting new people? You can sometimes suspect that your partner is still open to this possibility by the way others respond to him or her. Read more…

One of the major reasons heartbreak hurts so much is the lack of closure. Sometimes remaining friends with your ex offers the opportunity to maintain a dialogue in which a greater understanding about the issues leading to the breakup can be exchanged. Other times, contact with an ex can prolong the pain and delay closure. Read more…