How to Be More Attractive

Do you ever wonder why some women seem to have all the luck? More dates, better jobs, bigger raises? The answer may surprise you. Relationship and communication experts Eva Margolies and Stan Jones bring an authoritative, step-by-step learning guide to help women discover their inner sex appeal in "Seven Days to Sex Appeal: How to be sexier without surgery, weight loss, or cleavage" (Andrews McMeel Publishing, LLC, $18.99).

When sitting: Sit up straight with your shoulders back. Breathe through your diaphragm, because it's difficult to slouch when your diaphragm is filled with air.

Posture: The basic sex appeal stance includes erect posture, one foot forward and turned out so that your hip is projected slightly, with hands behind your back. It makes you look approachable and confident. A walk with sex appeal involves having good posture, keeping your head and chin up. Keep your gaze straight ahead.

Attractive and feminine use of the hands: Hands are closely associated with touch and sensuality. There are more nerve endings in the hands than any other part of the skin. Use lotion regularly and get a manicure. Let him know you are interested by tucking your hair behind your ear and exposing your palm. Using the balls of your fingers to adjust your glasses looks more sensual.

Approachable, alluring and vulnerable eyes: Eye makeup should be understated. Use a soft shadow to make the eyelid look more sultry and plenty of mascara to emphasize fluttering and batting. The darting glance is when you look in your man's direction with your eyes looking up toward his face for about three seconds, look away, and then repeat once or twice. The sidelong glance is when you turn your head slightly away from the man, look down, and then slowly raise the eyes, looking at him out of the corners of your eyes for a few seconds.

Voice and mouth: Research shows that smiling is the most frequent behavior used to get a man to approach. If your teeth are the problem keeping you from smiling, the investment in cosmetic dentistry might pay off. Wear lip gloss whenever you can to make lips enticing. You can use any shade of lipstick you feel comfortable with, even red. Try a pout, which is when you put your lips together and protrude them slightly and then extend the lower lip a little farther than the upper. When speaking, use a high amount of clear articulation; a rich, resonant voice with lots of harmonics; and a moderate amount of pitch variation around optimum pitch.

Male signals and the courtship sequence: Flirting is really a matter of combining gender signals with coordinating preening -- touching yourself or your clothing in such a way as to suggest you want to look attractive. Remember your posture and keeping your head up when you walk. Don't forget to use your hands properly by stroking a glass you are holding with your finger tips or do a head toss followed by running your fingers through your hair.

On a first date: Let's say you are going to a restaurant. You will have to be especially careful with how you handle and eat your food if you want to keep the sex appeal going. There's nothing that's a bigger turnoff than watching a guy eat with his mouth open or a woman slurping her soup. Hand your jacket to the man, and allow him to help you put it on. Wait by a chair to let him pull it out for you. Touches such as a patting someone on the back or a peck on the cheek is safe and non-threatening. The balance of talking to listening should be about equal in any two-person conversation.