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I'm in a thrilling extramarital relationship.
Why is this one of our questions, that you may be in an extramarital relationship? Because this is what many people pursue in response to midlife marriage slumps. Listen, this is not the solution. If you're taking some heavy risks, be discreet and end the affair as soon as possible.
Why? Because you owe it to you and your spouse to rediscover your love and passion. Tell your spouse that you want to have a fling with him or her! The mutual adventure and rediscovery may be more exciting than the first romance, suggests psychologist Ed Dreyfus, author of Someone Right For You. If you lovingly communicate this wish, it could re-spark mutual passion and caring.
Dreyfus advises against telling your spouse about your extramarital affair. If you do, he says, you may lose the chance to strengthen your marriage. (Your mate may be emotionally devastated by your confession and obsess on your cheating instead of grappling with the major issues in your relationship.) If you must confess, do so to a therapist and not to your spouse.
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