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I want to tell my spouse and be forgiven.
This is a very bad idea. For one thing, why would you be instantly forgiven for inflicting so much pain? More importantly, for whose benefit is your confession? Your spouse will be hurt, and it's pretty unlikely she or he will let you feel better. If you really want to make amends, put your feelings on the table. Tell your mate you want to have a fling, and the partner you've chosen is them.
Here's how:
- First, create a setting that's relaxed and romantic, and be sure you have plenty of time to talk about your feelings.
- Second, be very, very careful that you don't let your mate think you're delivering a "dear john" message that will end the marriage.
- Give your spouse plenty of time to absorb and adjust to the news you're delivering.
- If your spouse is enthusiastic, set aside some time for your "affair." Be playful about planning it. Enjoy!
Says psychologist Ed Dreyfus, author of "Someone Right For You", and the source of these suggestions, the rediscovery of each other can be as exciting as the first romance.
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