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Finding New Means for Sexual Creativity
Also, although my erections have become more of an issue as I've gotten older, the truth is that I was no Johnny-on-the-spot when it comes to erections, even when I was younger. In my life I have rarely had spontaneous erections (without some sort of touching or kissing or other physical contact).
Necessity, as they say, is the mother of invention, and in many ways I have been glad for the physiological push to be creative sexually. Not being so focused on intercourse has encouraged me to pay attention to ways of being sexual that have become aspects of my sexual personality that both I and my partners most strongly appreciate.
Self-Worth
Still, there have been times when not having an erection has been disappointing or even downright embarrassing, and just having to wonder whether I will have an erection in some sexual situations is at best distracting. The entire issue has certainly given a distinct color to my sexual concept of myself.
I think there are many men out there who are in positions similar to mine. Collectively, we are the primary market for Viagra, and for the similar drugs that will follow Viagra into the marketplace before long--men who are not clinically dysfunctional because we are able to have happy, fulfilling sex lives, but who would nevertheless like to be harder, sooner and more reliably, than we are. And now, in true American pill-popping fashion, we can be.
Competition
It is the male equivalent of breast implants, albeit without the physical trauma, permanence, or (as far as we know now) medical side effects--the ability to meet socially defined standards of sexual desirability by artificial means. People seem amazed (and amused) that so many men want this assistance, even as they were once amazed at how many women were opting for larger, firmer breasts. But the truth is that in a culture that puts such heavy emphasis on sexual performance and desirability, while simultaneously berating both men and women to feel bad about who we are sexually, neither is very surprising.
Other Episodes
Read Episode II and Episode III of Viagra: My Personal Moments.
Copyright © 1998 David Steinberg
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