Six Ways To Conquer Envy
We all experience envy every now and then. And it’s not always a bad emotion, since it can challenge us to do our best. But if envy is overwhelming, psychologists say it can lead to depression, resentment, anger, low self-esteem, frustration and stress. Envy also prevents us from enjoying what we do have. So what should you do if envy is getting the best of you? Try to:
NAME IT. Realizing that the emotion you're feeling is envy is the first step toward overcoming it. Accept the fact that it's completely normal and don't beat yourself up over it. It's how you choose to react to your emotions that will determine whether or not that emotion will create opportunities for you, or cause problems.
KNOW YOU’RE NOT ALONE. Realize the person you’re envying is probably envying someone or something else. That’s just life. Whether it's having children who call every day, a better garden, fabulous vacations, more money in the bank, or a communicative spouse, someone will always seem to have it just a little bit better than you.
CHANGE YOUR BRAIN. Instead of dwelling on the negative, consciously alter your thoughts by reading a book, watching a movie, getting together with friends (and NOT talking about the reason you’re envious), cooking, or dancing. The trick is to absorb yourself in what you’re doing in the moment.