Need professional help! Has he always been different or is this a mid life crisis?

OK, this is a somewhat complicated (in the psychological sense) situation, but you can handle this, so I will give you my best answer at the moment, given what I think I know and experience. First, he has and is sexually assualting you ,and you should not put up with that for any reason. You could report him , to start a paper trail, and you should absolutely let him know that his mental illness is no excuse for sexually abusing you, and you will not tolerate it. then what ever you tell him youwill do about it, make sure that you follow through. Every person who has ever sexually abused someone is mentally ill, it is NO EXCUSE, not in real life, not as a daughter, and not in a court of law. This is not your fault,and you need to get clear about not taking this even if he is 'sick'. Next, some professionals, and I agree with this, say that bi polar and schizophrenia may have their origins in childhood with abuse of some kind and or just such mixed emotional messages from the people taking care of them , usually parents, that they are very upset and confused as children emotionlly. It is also proven that many bi polars heal with the right hormone testing and treatment, up to 20% or more. It is theorized that the stress hormones of a difficult childhood can get the stress hormones over producing at a young age and that along with the improper parenting , is at the root of bi polar and schizophrenia. If nothing else, treating that has been near impossible in any effective way, UNTIL around 10-15 years ago when a physisist developed this method of profound effective healing. eftuniverse.com click on 'get started free' for the free self help version eftmasters.com for the pros. It sounds like a reasonable assumption that your dad was somehow exposed to sexual abuse of children, himself, or he learned it is somehow ok to treat a daughter that way. Of course it is not, but he , on some level thinks it is. That makes him an abuser, on top of his illness. Most people who are abused, do NOT go on to abuse others, about 2/3 of people abused, about 1/3 do, that is the statistics on that. His bi polar just brings that out so he is more open about it, and perhaps points to the underlying cause of his own problems. So, the method above can heal your pain and emotional baggage, and you need to set and KEEP your boundaries with him. If you want to report it, or at least tell someone who will document it for you, then do that. Keep the letters as evidence and proof. If he gets his meds right and gets therapy, you could also give him the method , it may be just what he needs also. If you need help with setting appropriate boundaries with him, and being assetive, then ask someone trained (like those above) to help you figure out how to handle this, and look for assertiveness training classes online or in person to take. His inappropriate emotional manipulation of you by stating 'you do all you can , blah blah' is just that, a manipulation. Even if he was offended you did not invite him to your wedding, all this has brought out a really creepy , mentally ill, part of him that has nothing to do with his bi polar as an excuse. Sexual inappropriatness is also a sign of some kinds of schizophrenia. Even mentally ill people have lovable qualities often. this doesn'tmean he was a totally bad parent. It means you didn'treally know him in some ways at all, and we never know what others are thinking. Create your best life. Set boundaries. Deal with your issues, and move on. Happy New Year. EDIT: I am guessing that on some level this is why you eloped. Take some panax ginseng 600mg at night until you heal from this abuse ,itis safe to take with otherthings as well. If you go into regular theray , they have no way of heaing and actually removing the emotional baggage,and youwill be in there for a long time. That is why I gave you a method that works unlike any other.

Bipolar disorder and manic depression are the same thing. If your dad is bipolar 1, then he may be going into psychosis, and he needs help and hospitalization. I think you need to talk to your mom and ask her if she's noticed anything strange about your dad's behavior lately. Painful as it might be I think you should also show your mom the letters from your dad. If your dad has never been this way before, then there may be something about the fact that you eloped that has triggered some kind of mental episode with your dad. Bipolar disorder doesn't cause fathers to suddenly ask for pictures of their daughters naked, but in a psychotic state people often do strange things. I think you should talk to your mom and tell her what's going on because your father needs help. In the meantime, keep someone with you when you see your dad. I would hope that this is a mental state and with help your dad will return to normal. The unpleasant alternative is that he knows exactly what he is doing and asking. In any case, your mom must be aware of your dad's mental disorder and who the psychiatrist is that is prescribing his meds and treating him, and she may be able to get your dad in to see his doctor.