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My Social Life is Suffering

My Social Life is Suffering

I want to start dating again, but I'm worried. How can I go out to dinner with someone and not have him ask why I'm getting up every 30 minutes to go to the ladies' room? And what if he wants to do something outdoors and active? What would I do then? Duck behind a tree in shame? I definitely don't want to have to explain to someone on the first date that I can't hold my pee! What should I do?

My wife has this problem and

My wife has this problem and it's not a problem for us now. As slok says there are products for this and there are lots of alternatives. We buy hers from www.allaboutincontinence.co.uk who have a large range. My wife finds the pull-ups the best and their not even noticeable (just like the TV ad says). Just talk about your problems and you'll be amazed how understanding and accomodating people are.

Don't panic

I've been incontinent since birth. Remember diapers are a popular fetish and many people don't care - two of my (non-fetish) boyfriends found it oddly much more attractive than offputting. If your friends are decent people they should understand - I know mine do. I've learned to stop hiding. Fear is a killer. I don't worry much about the small bulge in my pants and neither do most people, least of all my trusted friends. I recommend being honest and sincere with everybody regardless of situation. Lying from the outset of a relationship only causes later problems - it would be far better to lose a relationship in the early stages than wait until the stakes are much higher.

I've seen ads for a new

I've seen ads for a new prescription that takes care of this. I would look into it... and most importantly, just remember that you're human and that's all you can be :)

By slok98
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Not a problem

There are products on the market that take care of problems like this.....they are called bladder control pads and are much like the sanatary napkins we wore in our earlier days. There are also exercises you can do to help the matter...they are called kegals.

Go have fun...and don't worry about it.

By majames
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There is also a surgery for

There is also a surgery for this that is very very simple and very very good. I had it. Its called a "Durosphere". I highly recommend it and it works. Its been 3 yrs ago now and its still wonderful.....Very simple.....do it, good luck !!!

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