Today's Cheating Husbands
Vikki Stark is a marriage and family therapist. She's also a woman who was cheated on by her husband of 21 years. Now, she writes a book about her experiences, titled "Runaway Husbands" and gives us her take on the cheating husbands in our society -- Tiger Woods, John Edwards and Jesse James (Sandra Bullock's husband).
It all started while she was making a routine dinner for her husband of 21 years. That was when she learned he had been having a six-year affair.
Alarming, right? Even more for someone like Stark -- a marriage and family therapist who's counseled individuals on marital and divorce issues for 25 years.
"He decided to tell me about this on a Tuesday, three days before the launch party for my first book," says Stark. "He had been having the affair for six years, and he couldn't wait until Sunday to tell me?"
Stark's latest book, "Runaway Husbands," is a product of personal experience -- but its release coincides with what seems like daily news about men in the spotlight who cheat, despite their "perfect marriages."
We asked Stark to classify the most famous "Runaway Husbands" of the moment -- and asked whether there's any hope for relationship redemption . . .
"High on Sex": Tiger Woods
"He didn't have an affair -- he has a sexual compulsion," Stark says. He may have strayed, she says, because it's the nature of his identity. "He lives in an alternate reality. Everywhere he goes, someone says 'Is that your coffee cup? Can I keep it?' It's like he and God came from the same neighborhood." Woods had affairs, but his marriage has the best chance to survive. "There's less of a breach of intimacy because he hasn't fallen in love with just one woman."