Dating after 50, Hosted by Tom Blake (tooter1)

I don't subscribe to the "instant connection" during a first date, at times, the better men or women take longer to be appreciated, so enjoy, meet many many different dates, pay for your own expenses, don't look at your "date" for his-her potential future outlook, just go along for the adventure. Be yourself and be patient, the best is yet to come.

A positive attitude toward life in general will attract quality persons.

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All relationships end at some point -- some by breakup or divorce, others by death. There are no guarantees in life. Amazingly, we still yearn to love, even though every time we love, we take a chance of being hurt or left. I believe this is because we inherently know that there is no greater joy than being in love or being loved. Am handsome man of 57 years old.Looks like not more than 40 or 45. Executive in a multinational Company but still looking for a partner whom I cud share beautiful moments of life.
.Hon, Surviving a long relations/marriage and working on it daily is like building a home over a long period of time. You add one piece at a time, and every piece has a different meaning. Even as the home gets old and creaky, you would never think of tearing it down or leaving it because of all the love and memories and emotions that belong to each piece." V must need to have trust, patience, and lots and lots of compromise if V want things to progress. Strained marriages, conflict, hostility , disagreement or sickness of your partner compell n guide us to think that we must have life where v can breath in a fresh air. I stand in the middle of no where, like a child who's toy has broken and he is sad. God has given me every thing n v can have separate set up. If understanding all this, some one still offers me to hold her hand , I swear for ever for all its worth, I' II give her every day I have on earth. As long as I live, As long as I breath , With every heartbeat, I'II need her near me. I won't leave her behind until the Lord says it's time to go with him.
Falling in love, is not a silly nor unrealistic ambition. While a few may be lucky enough to find their long life soul- mate, because when reality sets in, the fantasy -- and the romance -- are likely to fade. Relationships shouldn't be based on emotional intimacy which may likely to break apart soon, but it should be solely based upon character and natural empathy. Real love shows itself in more powerful ways, such as sincerity, friendship , support, acceptance and communication. Maybe it's a pipe dream that will never happen, but I still believe love exists.

I am one of the people who hate "dating". I like to make friends but hate to "buy" time with someone.

I have been single (again) for 7 years. My last husband was 10 yrs. younger than me. He just wanted someone to take care of him and ran us into a lot of debt which I am still paying off by working 2 full-time jobs. Ladies, if you have good credit, never, and I repeat NEVER add your new husband to your credit cards no matter how much you think you love & trust him! After the bills started coming in, I took the cards away from him and within 2 months he took off. With working 7 days a week, 12 to 16 hours a day, I barely have time to take care of myself. But, I'll be debt free in about 18 months. Maybe then I'll have time to have a life again. For the first time in my life, I am enjoying living alone. The only hard part these past 7 yrs. is not having the time to enjoy my grandchildren.

Hi:
My wife of almost 31 years passed away Feb 2007. I was totally lost. I joined a Bereavement Group Jun 0f 2008 and it was the best thing I ever did. Dec. of 2008 a widow who had lost her husband in earlier that year joined the group. I asked her to dinner a few months later. Nothing serious just dinner. 6 Months later our relationship is still pretty casual but we absolutely enjoy each other's company. We stay in touch with each other pretty frequently and go out to dinner almost every week. In short we have fun when we are together. We have both decided to just see where things go and will continue to enjoy our current situation. It's all about relationships. I'm learning that as a 60 year old relationships are entirely different than when I was in my 20's. I love where we are at right now (yes I believe that I have fallen in love with her) but we have decided to take it slow and easy, we have all of the time in the world. It doesn't get much better than this.

OK...call it my own fault I will gladly take the blame for making the selection but I will not take the blame for the game playing, rudeness, disrespect and other unbelievable acts and actions have been confronted with when I have dated men in their 40, 50, and 60's...this recent causality was a semi-retired 64 year old that played semi professional tennis and for some reason thought he was the greatest catch since the sea trout...

Now, at 55 do you think I have time for nonsense? I look every bit of 40 and my mental,physical and social attitude is that of a mature 30 something year old...I keep up with what is going on( my baby is 16) and so when this fox thought he had a opportunity I cut his mess real quick...do I get tired of this nonsense? you bet I do...that is why I think in 2010 I have to redirect my interest and find something else in this life that will make me happy spirituality and emotionally...men and dating ain't it...

Tom,
I was married for 38 years before my husband passed away 4 years ago. How do I ever find love again? The men my age (62) seem to be looking for younger women. And...then there's the SEX issue. I'm not into the "free love" movement, and would ideally like to meet someone who values me for who I am first, with commitment to follow. Any advice?

I have been single for 8 years,,,then about a year and a half ago I veered off the path and got married to what seemed like the right man. He was 11 years my senior. Very shortly after we got married he changed, his attitude and his manner. We quickly became like roommates and he wasn't happy with any amount of financial split we did with our living expenses. I have a career and was living nicely on what I made. I Own my own home and have no debt. I have a fantastic credit score. Something seemed terribly wrong when we would go months without any physical touch and he wanted me to start dipping into what little I had for retirement to go on extravagant vacations etc. I finally moved out after a year. It was my 3rd marriage and he did have a much better income than I had plus he was mostly retired. I never said I didn't want to work or help with the household expenses. What slays me are the many men who find an independant woman attractive,,they want someone who can take care of themselves and who they don't have to take care of in any way,,,,but then as they get older they want to marry this independant, slightly younger, fit woman and then they want you to take care of THEM when they are too old to take care of themselves! How does this work? Are there any men out there who see it differently? I mean this last marriage had no sex, no intimacy and he wanted to share the finances, I felt hoodwinked. I am now living again happily on my own and have no plans to ever do marriage again,,,why would I?

i just got divorved for thwe 3rd time whew do i want to do that again?i dont think i have the energy for the game anymore and find id rather stay home with a good movie then have be be on show with some stranger in suppose to impress. is there something wrong with me ? any one else out there feel the same?

Too many women in Oklahoma City area are looking for that perfect match and being too picky. I know alot of guys like me who are not looking for sex, but friendship and companionship. Life is too short to look for perfection as I plan to enjoy my remaining time on this planet. Anyone like to travel and see new places in the USA!

whew after reading all the posts of woman who are having trouble with the men near their age in dating situations i have some good advice! relax and go for the younger man. i find them to be ingageing and really interested in being with an older mature woman! i had hesitated to date my current boyfriend of 10 months because of our great age difference of 19 years but he asked me to give him a chance to prove himself and i did. and i am glad i did . after i bad marraige .he gave me back the fun and self esteme i had thought i lost being in a miserable marriage for 3 years/so i say to you woman out there relax and dont rule out the younger man.

one has to sort out why he/she is lonely first, act on options to deal w/ it and take care of his basic needs in life then decide if he/she is able to share w/ another in mutually amicable terms w/ God's guidance & blessings

I've been divorced 7 years and am in my early 50s. As the years pass, dating becomes more and more difficult.
WE also get more and more used to being on our own and resenting "outside" interference.
So on one hand we want to date and find a partner, but on the other hand, we don't want anyone encroaching on our territory.
Or is this problem mine alone?