GRIEF

I know this pain SO well, and I know you will find a bit of grace along the way. When people said those kinds of things to ME, I scoffed. It felt so hopeless. I would never have believed that I could tell someone about him without breaking down. I still have trouble with the radio, music was a huge part of our lives.
Its been eleven years. We were only married for 16. He was only 52. No illness, no warning, a heart attack just took him. One minute he was laughing with me, and the next, he was gone. Anger? You bet! Feeling ripped off? Yeah. Deserted? Lost? Alone? Afraid? All of those and MUCH more.
I got involved with a bowling league, then started playing golf on a regular basis with some people I met there. The activity, the obligation to BE somewhere, and the interaction with other people who had tread the mile in my moccasins did me much good. I can't tell you the pain gets better, but I can tell you that I can smile now when I think of him. Bitter sweet, but smile...I think part of my pain is that I don't just miss him, I miss US. I see other couples walking on the River Walk, holding hands, and my heart squeezes with the memory of such walks and talks. The list of those things is endless. I wish I knew words that would ease your pain, but time and belief that love never dies are my best offerings.
I hope you can find your way through to smiles again.
Christine

I lost my boyfriend, partner, lover, and friend six months ago. He died of a reocurrence of cancer. He had it in 2006, and again in 2008. It was less then three months from when he was diagnosed to his passing. I'm learning to live single again. I never thought I'd be alone this far down the line. I'm 62, and he was 55, so it was a surprise. I know I can live single, but, it's not what I planned. We were just together for 7 years, so I can't imagine being together for 38 years. I'll pray for you..
Rita

Kevin,

I am sorry for your pain. I know there are good days and bad days. If you need to cry, then let yourself cry. If you need to talk and vent, then call a good friend and tell them you just need to vent. If you find yourself angry, that's okay too, as all of that is the grieving process. When the pain is go great and you feel, as if your heart is truly BREAKING, then fall down on your knees and ask God to comfort you, as only He can. I Peter Chapter 5 verse 7 tells us Cast all of cares upon Him, for He careth for you. I don't know if you are a believer or not. I hope so, because I truly don't know how unbelivers make it through such sorrowful times. I hope you have a Pastor you can rely on during this time of healing. Just remember we don't all heal at the same rate. May God be with you and comfort you during this very difficult time! Summer14

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss.

I lost my husband of 38 years also and it turned my life upside down. I thought I was dead myself for a while. I didn't know who I was anymore but I made it and you will too.

That was 12 years ago and since then I was married again for 7 years when he also died from cancer. After that I had a relationship with someone I fell deeply in love with who had a lot of medical problems. He also died within a few months of our being together. So, yeah, I know a little about grief. :)

The biggest thing to remember is that there is life after death of someone you love. Once you heal a bit, you will find your way with or without another partner.

One of the things I did was to do a Blog and two of the subjects was Keeping Vigil and Letting Go and Moving On. They can be found on my Blog Profile Page. You are welcome to go read anything I wrote.

You will survive. Trust me.

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