singledom

I have been single for overten years now but I am rarely lonely. If I desire company I have a few lady friends that I call and see if they want to go out etc. Usually I find someone that will want to go. I live in north florida and dont like the hot summer weather so I would like to meet a woman in the 50 to 67 year old group that is from the north like NY, ME or MI that would like to trade three months in the summer at here place for three months in the winter at my place in Florida.

I have been divorced for 10 years and find that as time goes on, I am more comfortable with being single. I never say never, but I honestly cannot imagine being married again, or even living with someone. I have good friends and I sincerely enjoy spending time with them. A girlfriend of mine says I would change my mind if I met the right person...perhaps. But, I'm not looking. I am happy...and no, I'm not just settling. It does not bother me or make me sad to see couples together...been there, done that... I want my own life. I am 58 yrs old; maybe that's the reason.

When I was young, I was restless and wild and desperate for a guy, but now, thank God, my hormones have settled down and I feel calm, peaceful and thankful to be alive.

I wouldn't mind having a male friend, but I don't care to be anyone's housekeeper. I only pick up after my pets ;-)

I'm glad to join in with this discussion because I have been single (again) for the past 4 years and it is a mixed bag. On the one hand, its wonderful to not deal with problems all the time, go where you want and when you want. However, the flip side of the coin is the loneliness that creaps in every so often. But I can remember feeling that loneliness when I was married. As they say, it really is an inside job and I am working on that premise. I do miss the lifestyle of being married (going places with someone, parties, trips, the tender moments), but on a balance sheet it didn't tally for me. So I am trying to find my way in the single world with new friends and lifestyle.

Right now, I am a bit lonely, but I'm really not alone, it is just feelings and "this too shall pass."

well i agree it is nice not to have to answer to anyone when i come home i can do what i feel like doing which is a bonus!however i do find holidays a difficult time not to be in a relationship, i would def perfer to be with someone even with the sacrifices that hads to be made, would be worth it if it is the right peerson

Single for 4 years, now remarried.....twice the laundry, twice the cooking, half the freedom but the arms around me each morning and night I would not trade for anything.......Nancy Reagan gently touching her husband's casket - - Johnny Cash passing only months after June.......priceless relationships....

I was single for over 4 years after my divorce. I loved it!! For all of the reasons you've all listed below and more. I dated and that was nice when and if I wanted it. I likened it to having grandchildren (which I don't) It was nice to have a man around for a time but then it was even nicer to send him home!! However the lovebug hit about a 2 years ago and a year ago I married the man of my heart. We've been married almost a year now and I couldn't be happier.

Gotta say I really enjoy being single. Peace is experienced. I believe and have faith in God; it is what makes this situation such a joy. The Bible suggests to stay single if one can help it because of all the challenges in marriage; some very painful. I agree! When I see couples I neither feel I am being left out nor that they have something better than my situation; I perceive them as having many challenges to face. Statiscally, 1 out of 2 marriages end in divorce. There is so much to enjoy in life without all the ups and downs in marriage to contend with. Hiking daily with my dog is sheer pleasure. My dog is the most gracious, well-mannered critter I have ever seen or been around...that goes for human critters, as well. ;o) Now, after experiencing the love and peace I have from finding God, and after being around such an incredibly kind, gentle dog I just can't see having to deal with a flawed human being in my space. It would take a highly-developed individual who has been transformed by God's grace and possessing people and social skills galore for me to ever even slightly consider being open to the idea of having a relationship. Peace is very valuable to me today.