Ten New Year's Resolutions Every Couple Should Make


  • --Eve Marx

    Today most people’s New Year's resolutions are about stopping smoking, drinking less alcohol, taking better control of one’s credit cards, and eating less. But couples should make resolutions, too, focused on improving and strengthening the relationship. Here’s ten worth trying. You’d have to be a saint to really stick to all of them; shoot for three and see if your relationship doesn’t grow stronger.

    Greet Your Spouse With A Cheerful "Good Morning"

    It might be too much to ask that you say this with a smile on your face, but work to be less grumpy before you’ve had your coffee.
  • Give Him A Surprise If your spouse carries a briefcase or their lunch to work, slip in a sweet surprise. It could be a Hershey Kiss or a nice note or an extra pair of gloves or a scarf because you know they always lose these items.
  • Text Your Honey An Affectionage Message During The Day That lets them know you’re thinking about them fondly, and not just what you want them to pick up at the store on the way home
  • Hug And Kiss More Often Not just when sex is in the air. Affection breeds affection, and that’s always a good thing.
  • Praise More, Criticize Less Go out of your way to say something nice about something your spouse does around the house. Say less about what they didn’t do, or the way you’d like them to do it. Even if it’s about unloading the dishwasher, men love to be told they’ve done a good job.
  • The average couple spends less than hour together when they’re home unless they’re at the table. Once a week watch a movie together, play a board game, work in tandem on a project. Work to break the habit of him always falling asleep alone in front of the sofa while you’re upstairs reading in bed.
  • Give Flowers When It's Not A Birthday Or An Anniversary Surprise, surprise, men like flowers, too. Not only do they make the house smell better and look more festive, but flowers are the symbol of appreciation. Everyone likes that.
  • At a gathering or in front of friends, I call my husband my “arm candy,” and he gets a big kick out of that.
  • Really bury the hatchet (or hatchets.) What’s that old expression about not crying over spilled milk? What’s done is done. Let it go. Move forward. Move on.
  • Plan An Unusual Vacation Together Tick off one more item on that bucket list. Never been to Europe or a tropical island? Now’s the time to do it, as a couple. Whatever you do, plan it together. And most importantly, resolve to get along!