Why Cougar Relationships Break Up

The Maggie May Syndrome

So yet another cougar couple has hit the deck. Katie Couric, a couple of weeks after Demi Moore split from Ashton Kutcher, has announced it is all over with Brooks Perlin, her boyfriend, (emphasis on boy) who’s seventeen years younger than the perky newscaster. Got us wondering why even the most toned and tightened among us just can’t seem to keep those young hunks happy.  

Yes, I know the standard explanation is the guys in question decide they want kids and realize that is not going to happen  when the lady in question already has a couple of teen-agers who call her “Mom.” But my theory is the reasons for the breakups are not just about the male urge to procreate but rather can  be explained through the lyrics of that old Rod Stewart favorite “Maggie May, ” about a younger man and an older woman he’s trying to leave. 

 Now I happen to love “Maggie May,” which launched Stewart’s American career.  In the song the young schoolboy describes how the witty, seductive, fascinating Maggie lured him away, no doubt  exactly the way a woman of accomplishment can intrigue a younger man. And how they had such a terrific, sexually exhausting time of it at first.

But then, guess what? He has other things to do besides just being there for old Maggie. He is at a different stage of life, and her past accomplishments, no matter how impressive they once seemed, probably become a lot  less important to him than his future goals.  And besides, as the Stewart lyrics note, “The morning sun when it's in your eyes really shows your age.”  Uh huh. “But that don't worry me none, in my eyes you're everything.” Except the sun comes out every morning, and maybe the older woman, who was once such a prize, has started neglecting to use Dermablend before their morning coffee. So he goes back and forth about how terrific she is but how he knows he has got to get away and starts blaming her for just being her. “Oh, Maggie I wish I never seen your face.” That’s when those guys, suddenly full of hostility, start acting out no doubt, cheating the way Ashton did or making life “complicated” the way Perlin, Katie’s boy toy, allegedly did. Demi, of course, filed for divorce. And Katie now says her relationship broke up because of their 17-year-age difference. I guess she finally noticed because he really noticed. Yes, it was the Maggie May syndrome again--a great song and a downer of an experience for a mature woman. Myrna Blyth is editor-in-chief of ThirdAge.      
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