Why Does Romance Die?
Are you in a relationship where the flames of romance are starting to go out? Or are you single and having a hard time believing romance can last longer than a few months into a relationship?
Romance is how most relationships begin. We can't wait to be with our partner, give flowers, write cards, shower each other with attention and affection, stage seductions, etc. But somewhere down the road the romance always seems to fade. It happens so often that it seems ordinary, expected and natural.
But why? Don't we all -- men and women alike -- dream of an eternal love affair? Don't we all enter into a relationship hoping this person will be the one to love us for a lifetime?
Doesn't it feel wrong when romance fades? Don't you feel somehow wrong when you no longer want to spend as much time with your partner and when you are no longer as attentive? Doesn't it feel wrong when your partner no longer does the nice things he or she used to do? Or when the sexual passion dies?
It's not natural for romance to die in a relationship. After all, isn't romance simply a way we appreciate, treasure and love one another? If so, as romance begins to fade, it is an indicator that our feelings for each other are beginning to fade as well. This often happens in the course of a relationship. We feel less for our partner, we become numb, we wall up.