This only happened to me once. A man called the Air conditioning service company I worked for one afternoon.I picked the parts that afternoon and we agreed the repair would be done the following morning I had the parts for his Air conditioner and was on the way to his house at 7: 45 am. He called raising cain threatening to cancel the call and get someone else. When I arrived I was made to put plastic bags on my feet before entering the house.[?} He spent the whole time mumbling and repeating himself, sadly his wife looked completely exasperated and never even spoke. I remember the look on her face to this day and that was twenty years ago! I saw a letter with National dementia so & so written on it on a coffee table. At the time I really did not understand what it was about.If I had, I would probably not have gone, because who knows what he could say or do next. Within a year he had died but I'm not sure why.So, what are some examples of when you had to deal with someone with dementia, and how would you handle it. This question would fit into several categories, but I chose "Business and finance" instead of "Psychology","Senior citizens" or" Florida"

my mom has alzheimer's/dementia and very little money. she will need medicaid soon for her care costs. she is applying for a need based veteran's pension. already sold her primary residence, and have short-sale offer with the bank for a rental property which generates monthly income. costs of property equal or exceed the income, but owning it qualifies as both income and as an asset--complicating her eligibility for the pension and for medicaid. she hasn't let it foreclose because she is collecting rent, i.e. cashing the rent checks and not paying the mortgage probably leads to more problems, not any solutions.what is quickest way to get out from under this property so she can qualify for the pension and for medicaid?

I've still got a ways to go by my inlaws have a situation wherein the 79 year old mom may need long-term care either at home or at a nursing facility (dementia becoming advanced - sometimes incontinent). Her husband's in good health but has worked all his life to have savings and house and we're hearing now that to qualify for long-term medical they take it all except for primary house and you can't qualify if as a couple you make more than $1500/month SSI (he has a pension too).

my grandmother lives with us. I have a 2 year old. I work at home -- my husband goes to work like a normal person.my grandmother is constantly trying to mother my 2 year old. she's old and has got dementia and some things stick with her while others don't. we will, for example, be in the living room and my son will start whining about something (he's going through a whining phase, like a normal 2 year old right?). his train table, for example, is in the corner of the room. he sometimes wants it out so he can play with the whole thing. he whines for it to get out and I tell him that I cannot understand what he wants unless he tells me -- and I usually do know what he wants, but the "waaah" is not telling me what he wants. I'm trying to get him to work on him telling me what he wants so those "wahhhs" stop. he can talk perfectly fine. I don't want him to whine if he knows how to vocalize what he wants.so then he's whining and my grandmother asks him what's wrong and gets visibly upset at him waaah-ing. I try to tell him to tell me what he wants. meanwhile, she's getting upset watching the whole thing and will try to intervene with the whole thing. she'll say, "oh no, what's wrong, what's wrong, why aren't you doing anything to help him? what's wrong with him?" so I know what's wrong but the whole grandma freak out escalates my son even more and then he starts crying. so how do you do that? how do I handle that scenario. it happens all the time...with food, with any of his toys, with getting dressed...he just starts whining and I KNOW he can tell me what he needs but then my grandmother gets into it and he just starts whining and crying even more because he understands that grandma is being sympathetic and I'm being the bad guy making him tell me with his words what he wants. I've told her to relax and let me handle it and she gets really upset with that. I think she thinks I'm ignoring him when he does this.anyone with any insight? I try to predict what he wants and I'm really good at that -- but when he just runs over to his train table and wants it pulled out and starts automatically with the whining, it's not something I can really prevent... I know what he wants but I want him to use his words. I want grandma to butt out but I can't tell her that. I can't leave the house the whole day either with him, or I would, because then she thinks we don't want to be around her.so...suggestions? okay, go.sorry this is so long too, as per usual.z, you sound like my husband. lol. he says that works for him if I'm gone when they're all together, and I believe it...but I'm home all day and I feel like I need to start standing my ground on the whole thing before it gets worse. or before I start leaving them both in the same room together to battle it out.oh god, I love you guys. you're the greatest. deans and jax, you are SO right and bringing me back to clarity. you're both so spot on and awesome. hor, that made me laugh really hard, especially after a hard day, lol..and jill--when I was a lifeguard and a kid pooped in the pool, we'd have to clear everyone out of there to clean it and we'd say over the walkie talkies that we had a shituation, lol. so THANK YOU. okay. xoxoxo.

Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.

Ok so here's the deal. I have been dating my boyfriend Matt for a year and 4-5 months and his grandmother is making me soooo mad! His mom to! Matt's grand has Dementia and Alzheimers, but we all know that's only a part of it. I grew up around people with those conditions and they where much easier to deal with and they where in the worse stages! His grandmother has selective memory and constantly fights with Matt and even his mom because she favors his cousin and his dead for 8 years aunt. She constantly has to be in control and can be very childish. She has gone in Matt's room and stolen stuff from him. I leave some clothes there cause I'm there alot and she stole some of my clothes and jewelry! Even makeup! Matt and his mom have told its hi room and he needs privacy but she goes in when we're gone anyway and if we lock it to keep her out she freaks out and says he's a little shit and can't lock His room in "her" house. She freaks out on him when he tries to be nice to her to. I let it slide until today. It was my grandma's birthday and someone "shook" her up today so I said come get me and we'll go to lunch. Matt was going to be back soon (he went out) so I waited for about 30 minutes. (We have to basically have to babysit her) My gram was getting kind of upset so we left (she CANT STAND his grandmother). I asked her that if Matt wasn't back and if friends of his showed up to not let them in his room because they go through his stuff. I realise that I went over my bounds a little bit but she seemed ok. When I got back Matt was here and everything seemed fine. I asked her if I could borrow a crotchet hook and asked how she was after I left. She said fine but angry. I looked at her and she snapped at me to not tell her who she could let into "HER" house and wear. She said to forget about it though even though I know she is going to complain to Matt's mom and lie like always. His mom never really tries to get her help for her issues! HELP me please!!!!

My sister-in-law is 50 and is showing signs of dementia. Her mother had Altziemers in her latter years and A is showing the same signs. She has a 6 year old son and recently the situation was brought to the attention of social services by the hospital when her son went in, apparently they saw her talking to inanimate objects. Social Services and her doctor say that everything is ok but having been through the problems the mother (now deceased) we are very worried as we know things aren't right. Is there anything we can do? We live in a different part of the country so it's hard for us to know what's happening and she doesn't communicate with us although we have tried. We can see her doing exactly the same things her mother used to do, (my husband lived at home for 30 years and saw what it did to his mother), unfortunately the father wouldn't hear of anything being done as she was "ok", the stock answer when asked anything concerning health.We are both very uneasy about the situation, maybe they are waiting for something to happen before doing anything?? Please would someone advise us. Thank you.Thank you for answers so far, she has definately got a problem with concentration issues, whilst talking to her she isn't "with you", she has a 21 year old who says that his mother is always "away with the fairies", she has no social life whatso ever and her six year old has no friends and has no-one to come and play with him and his mother says he doesn't go to any homes with children from school for tea etc. as they are aIright as they are. Apparently he had a best friend but she died recently aged 87. Her 21 year old is never at home but he wouldn't help his mother as he wouldn't know what to do, he won't see there is a problem. We recently had to deal with the death of the father and so we have been seeing her over the past 12 months so we know there is a problem, she has deteriorated since the mother's death 3 years ago. I know from experience it's early onset dementia but no-one seems to understand apart from my husband and the cousins at the funeral saying that they thought the

I am not sure if anyone knows the answer to this. My father died in the state of California in 2004, and my sister and live in Pennsylvania. He hadn't been in contact with us for years, before he got sick very quickly and died. My sister and I had no relationship with the controlling woman he was married to. Any questions asked her were not answered, and we let it go. We have since learned the wife has dementia. Not sure where she is. My sister and I are trying to find out if my father had a will or whats happening to the property out there? We have heard just recently through friends of my fathers out there, that the property is deteriorating and no ones been around the house for awhile. I would like to know what is public record out there and can I find it online? Such as property tax. if the house is paid off. Up for sheriff sale? Or if he had a will. Our father was cremated and my sister I know his ashes are there somewhere in the house. If nothing else we would like to at least get his ashes,and bring them home, but before we would go out there, we want to make sure the house isn't getting sold for back taxes. We don't know who his lawyer was and we are basically stuck trying to find out information. Any help someone could give me as to guide me in the right direction would be appreciated. I was able to at least get his death certificate, but that's about all.

My mother and father are both Canadian citizens and have lived in California for 50 years, they never became American citizens. My mom had to have part of her leg amputated and is now in a skilled nursing home. She also has dementia, which has become worse I believe from having surgery. She will most likely need long term. My Dad is thinking about moving back to Canada(Ontario) for medical care. What are the requirements to receive medical care in Canada for Canadian citizens who have not live there in 50 years?Yes they are receiving Medicare, but after 100 days medicare stops paying long term care.When they living in Canada they were paying into the system

Sorry this is going to be long, but please read it.So i met his girl (let's call her Amanda) and we hit it off pretty well at first, she liked me, i liked her, but neither of us made a move until i asked her to hangout as friends and at this point she didn't like me as much as she use to, i didn't like her as much when we first started talking either, so the time frame for when i liked her and she liked me was "flip-flopped". I basically screwed up asking to hangout as friends, but she said yes anyway and later canceled and i accused her making excuses, she said "no, i would love to hangout with you." but she never made any plans again. right now she likes one of my friends (Kyle) a lot but he is going with one of her friends (Marie) so it seems like that she will never get with Kyle. For a while I really wanted to get over Amanda but i eventually gave in to liking her again, i had told one of my other friends (Jon) that i liked her and even asked her to hangout as friends and found out that she use to like me, which only made me like her more unfortunately.So a few weeks passed and i finally said to Jon, "Hey why don't you ask her out, this could help me get over her.", he actually admitted to liking her bit but said " Are you sure, i don't want to get this any worse for you.", so he asked her out to a concert, they went. Friday, two days before the concert, i for some reason asked her out again and she said she was busy and later i sent her a text saying "I would really like to hangout with you but i don't know if you want to, if you do jst say so and we can chill." she misunderstood this as "more than friends" hangout and replied saying "Sorry but i am not looking for anything right now and would really like to stay friends." and I said that was fine, and then the next day she sorry for being weird and gave me a hug. Now i know that i have stumbled into "friend zone" and there is no way out for me for another reason as well...I told her that my life was not going very well recent (Family issues, my grandpa has cancer and dementia) and she said she would pray for me and that she is always there if i need a friend, so once again i was reassured that i was forever going to be in the "friend zone".Now about the concert, it seems she never really told anyone she went with him except that she was just going to a concert that night and even afterwards she never spoke about him or the concert. Another week passed and i asked Jon, "Hey how's it going with Amanda?" and he said "I'm done you can go ahead with her." this only confused me so much and I hated it. So i asked him, "why are you done with her?" and he said "Do you still care?" and it was left at that. Now today Jon put up a picture on FB of him and her at a one of those photobooth things, so obviously they went out again, and once again i was really confused, i thought he was done with her, now they are planning on going to a dance tomorrow, this only confused me more and pissed me off, I did a breathing technique to calm down, and i thought that i really need to get over Amanda, once and for all, but i see her every week and there is no way of avoiding her and so that way of getting over her is out of the question. I just really need to get over her, and i don't want to look for another girl either because i believe that will only make matters worse. I just really need help and desperately want to get over her.