Relationship Q&A: Marriages Need a Tuneup

There is a misconception in our culture that couples in a good marriage have no need for a marriage workshop. Truth is, while your marriage may be good, it's not perfect because there are no perfect people. Every marriage could use a boost from time to time, and it's important to make your marriage a priority. We take the time to bring our cars in for tuneups. We get an annual physical. We go to the dentist on a regular basis. We do these things to maintain and prevent future problems. If we take the time to care for our health and our belongings, wouldn't it be wise to spend time caring for our marriage? A marriage workshop is a great way to do this. It is time well spent and it's good positive marriage maintenance. Having been married for more than 30 years, you know that selflessness and compromise are important in marriage. We all tend to have a selfish nature at times. Within marriage, it's important to put this selfish nature aside in order to serve and please our spouse. Agreeing to the marriage workshop would not only please your wife, but it would enhance your marriage and draw the two of you closer. It's a great feeling to be happy and content in your marriage; however, I would encourage you to consider your wife's request. It's a great way to spend time together, and you may even learn some new ways to make a deeper connection. John Phillips is executive director of Community Marriage Builders. He can be reached at john@makeitlast.org or (812) 477- 2260.