Say "I Surrender" to Your Husband
Doyle proposes that women give up inappropriate control of their husbands, trust them in every aspect of marriage and never criticize them. An avowed "formerly controlling, disrespectful shrew," Doyle relates that her marriage lacked intimacy because her harshness damaged her husband's trust and made him feel emasculated.
Doyle got into therapy, stopped criticizing her husband and started being as supportive as possible in her feelings, body language, speech and actions. As a result, she says her husband drew closer and they forged a more passionate and trusting union.
Reader Jane Litster of Burlington, Vt., says the book helped her "figure out why I was so combative with my husband." Litster says, "My mind was fixated on an unreal, perfect marriage and I blamed my husband for everything instead of coming up with solutions for making it work."
One of the main messages of the book, says Litster, involves the daily practice of "thinking and feeling grateful for the good things you have instead of feeling dissatisfied. The book doesn't sugar-coat marriage, but offers solutions for how to behave like a trusted partner instead of a bossy manager or controlling mother."